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Baby steps to mortgage freedom for beanielou.
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If you're having to ask, then she needs to go.
Lodging is a commercial transaction. She's not a relative - she's not your daughter.
Wise words Mr Z.
Hope all well with you?
Take care
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Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
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I would ask her to leave. It's your home and you need to be comfortable and happy there. She is causing you stress at home
and that's really not fair to you.
Home is somewhere that should be as stress free as possible. Not always easy to achieve I know but you have a solution to
take away a big stress so just do it.
You'll feel better and your home will be yours again
Smilie is well trained if you want a new lodger
I think he's on his way to you....
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Wise words Mr Z.
Yeah, but you're not feeling them are you?Hope all well with you?
Well you know - plodding on, looking for the weekend.Take care
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The lodger sounds difficult. I think she will be happier if she is someplace else, and, more importantly so will you. Trust your feelings beanielou If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them
Emergency fund 800/1000
Buffer fund 0/100
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I am z. I am.
Thanks doing it anyway.
You are right.
She will be happier somewhere else.
Just how to tackle it.I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.0 -
Hey Beanie!
Sorry to hear about your falls and I agree with the others, if the lodger isn't working out then she has to go. It will be easier for both of you. She will get a valuable lesson and you will have the opportunity to find someone more suitable.
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When we asked someone to move on we said we just needed a break from having lodgers..given your condition that's probably a good one for you to use too.. and we gave her up to 6 weeks to find something else so she wasn't too stressed.
Worked for us. We then picked up again a few months later when we had recovered, regrouped and found a better fit. He's still here as it happens MFiT-T4 Member No. 96 - 2022 is my MF goal
Winter 17/18 Savings Rate Goal: 25% [October 30%] :T
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Bit late to add in, but its your home and your should never be stressed there. Best to get shut of her i'd agree.MFW: Was: £136,000.......Now: £47,736.58......0
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Well. Lodger is gone.
Came home & started packing so it saved any hassle.
Goodness knows what fibs she has told her work mates.I am a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Mortgage Free Wannabe & Local Money Saving Scotland & Disability Money Matters. If you need any help on those boards, do let me know.Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any post you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button , or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own & not the official line of Money Saving Expert.
Lou~ Debt free Wanabe No 55 DF 03/14.**Credit card debt free 30/06/10~** MFW. Finally mortgage free O2/ 2021****
"A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of" Jane Austen in Mansfield Park.
***Fall down seven times,stand up eight*** ~~Japanese proverb. ***Keep plodding*** Out of debt, out of danger. ***Be the difference.***
One debt remaining. Home improvement loan.0 -
Goodness knows what fibs she has told her work mates.
Who cares?! She's gone!! Time to have a peaceful cuppa. You know the truth. Don't worry about what other people, who mean nothing to you, think xMortgage at 12/07/2022 = £175,000
Mortgage today = £161,690.76
300 271 payments to go.House buyout fund £21,000/£40,000
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