Ex husbands quandry!

gettingtheresometime

BrassicWoman wrote: »

Really? He sounds like a manchild who is now looking to his ex to fix things.....

Strange I read it as a man who, by the looks of it, would be thrown out on the street after bringing at least £40K to the table,

On the basis neither you nor I know why he hasn't worked then I suggest we keep our thoughts to ourselves other than to answer the question being asked.

BrassicWoman

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

Strange I read it as a man who, by the looks of it, would be thrown out on the street after bringing at least £40K to the table,

On the basis neither you nor I know why he hasn't worked then I suggest we keep our thoughts to ourselves other than to answer the question being asked.

Internet opinion forum....

I'm more worried about OP getting lumbered with him from a soft heart! If he were that concerned I am sure he could work out ho to make a user account himself.

DUTR

BrassicWoman wrote: »

Internet opinion forum....

I'm more worried about OP getting lumbered with him from a soft heart! If he were that concerned I am sure he could work out ho to make a user account himself.

The OP was already 'lumbered' with him in a past episode.
I guess he could create a user account (if he knew MSE existed) , or he could seek legal direction.

gettingtheresometime

BrassicWoman wrote: »

Internet opinion forum....

I'm more worried about OP getting lumbered with him from a soft heart! If he were that concerned I am sure he could work out ho to make a user account himself.

Didn't know Katie Hopkins frequented MSE.......

On the basis that this thread is getting sidetracked by non important bickering I'll be the adult and say I'm out

TBagpuss

He could register a Matrimonail Home Rights Notice aginst the house now, if he wishes, which records that he has a potential interest in the property.

If she does die without changing her will then he would be able to make a claim against her estate under the Inheritance (Provision for Family and Dependents) Act. If it went to court then the court would usually look at what he would have been likely to receive on divorce, as a guide to what is likely to be a 'reasonable provision' for him.

Are her 5 children still minors? If they are all adults, it may be possible for him to agree a deed of variation with them (court proceedings are expensive, so if they get advice, they would likely be advised to settle)

If they are children, is he likely to be the one caring for them?

Can he prove his contribution?

Georgiegirl256

BrassicWoman wrote: »

If he hasn't worked in 5 years then 40k should cover his rent and bills for that period.

Time for him to grow up, I think.

We don't know why he hasn't worked for those 5 years. Of course it could be that he is a total scrounging bum? Or it could be one of many valid reasons why he hasn't worked, and then isn't that what marriage is about? Supporting one another. It could be that they've come to a decision together and the wife is ok with him not working?

In the case of a married couple it's not usually 'his share of the rent' and 'my share of the rent', but 'our money'.

cavework

I would just let him get on with it. You are his ex wife and if there is no chance you might get back together , why are you so concerned ?
TBH it is nothing to do with you

Acc72

cavework wrote: »

I would just let him get on with it. You are his ex wife and if there is no chance you might get back together , why are you so concerned ?
TBH it is nothing to do with you

I don't know if they gave children together, but maybe she cares fo this person? (In a purely platonic way).

This would've be completely unheard of given that they once cared enough to marry each other.

DUTR

cavework wrote: »

I would just let him get on with it. You are his ex wife and if there is no chance you might get back together , why are you so concerned ?
TBH it is nothing to do with you

Because we all have hearts, not every ex is horrid.
I'm good aquantances with some of my ex's . I'm sure I'm not alone.

swingaloo

Too be honest I know its nothing to do with me and Im certainly not going to be saddled with him. Im well rid. But after over 30 years with him and as we still have a few joint family and friends things do come up in conversation.


I wish he was a stronger person with a bit more bottle but hes probably too old to change.


As for the reason he hasn't worked, its a combination of laziness, illness and alcohol (which is why he and I are no longer married).
However, she has only had 2 part time jobs, each lasting less than 2 months in all the time they have been together so I guess they deserve each other in a way. I know she claims benefits for them and he has no personal income as she claims as a couple.


thank you for all the replies. I was just curious really about the situation. I only very rarely see him but if he ever brings it up again I will have a bit of info for him, buts that's all. I have no responsibility for him whatsoever now.