Issues With Neighbours

seven-day-weekend

My late m-i-l moved eighteen times in 22 years, all due to the neighbours...

Just saying.

SallyD

20 years ago at about 2.15 am a van pulled up and dragged furniture etc, along the path into the house next door accompanied by a woman and small screaming child. Within half an hour "boom boom boom" thundered through my walls. I lived in a terrace and my neighbour two doors down reacted very quickly and hammered on the street door - they did not respond as they simply could not hear us. The music went on for a couple of hours. Come 8am boom boom boom again. Eventually we were able to catch the attention of the woman and explained the music was almost as though it was in our homes. An apology was offered and that she would turn the "sounds" down......I worked all day and other neighbours told me the music was very loud during they day, so much so they could hear it up to 4 doors up, plus the windows were always wide open. We began calling noise patrol but they need to hear it and contacted our housing dept. Council letters were sent, meeting were set up where we all attended and promises made but never kept. This went on for years and as her daughter grew up it got even worse. I sometimes used to get home from work and as I turned into the road could hear the music so used to just drive straight on by and go to a local shopping complex for a couple of hours or the gym. 7 years ago a woman moved in to the house on the other-side of me, followed within a couple of weeks 4 grown up sons...............one of them was a DJ and used to practice his "sets" in the back bedroom. I must mention that two of the sons were tagged as they were gang members and an elder brother was in prison for shooting a man at point blank range.......Mum was very nice and apologetic but the loud music, shouting etc., did not stop. Her boys were very dominating. So now I had it on both sides. The boys were certainly problems, the police often raided the house and our gardens. The thought of retiring and being home more during the day and having to endure more of the nuisance filled me with dread so I took voluntary redundancy and moved out of the house after 33 years in the South to a small detached bungalow up North as I could not afford anything nearer..........so quite which is difficult to get used to, I can listen to my radio and tv with no boom beats in the background, no clip clopping around the wooden floors with flip flops, no shouting,screaming or kitchen cupboard banging. Since I have left the new tenant loves his music, has mental health issues and regularly runs around the garden shouting and screaming. My old neighbour now tells my friends that she wishes I had not moved as she hardly knew I was there and realises now that she must have caused me great problems and is so sorry for all the distress she caused me plus the fact her daughter (22) is now profoundly deaf caused by the music. I miss my old home, I was there for 33 years, due to their inconsideration I had to restart my life somewhere else to live without fear of disturbance.
I had to spend far more money than I wanted too but for peace of mind it has been worth it in that respect.

moneyistooshorttomention

That's so sad, ie being forced out of your home and even out of your area because of these selfish characters.

Hope things are going well for you now and at least there is one little consolatory factor, ie that daughter's own music has made her deaf. Poetic justice you could say.

Soleil_lune

Peter333 wrote: »

Completely agree with this ^^^ I think far too many people think they can do what they want, because it's 'their house' and that gives them the right to behave how they see fit, no matter how it affects their neighbours!

It is absolutely unacceptable to have your tv loud at ALL, let alone late at night, and loud music is also a no-no. Many homes are not built far apart, and of very good quality like they used to be, (pre 1940s,) so people should be a lot more considerate.

I don't want to hear someone else's television or music thudding through the party wall OR people screaming and shouting, and doors being banged, and people stamping up and down the stairs! Me and my wife and kids have never behaved like this, so I don't expect other people to do so!

If your neighbour can hear your tv, or your music, then it IS too loud. And they most certainly should not be having to hear your shouting.

Unfortunately, some people do have this 'if you don't like it tough! It's my house and I will do what I want in it' attitude.

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Straight answer to TV question = if neighbours can hear it, then it's too loud.

Re above quote:
-music shouldn't come through party walls
- people shouldn't scream and shout
- doors should be closed, not banged
- stairs should be walked up and down normally, ie not "stamping up and down"

I couldn't see any comments complaining about normal behaviour within that quote????

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

That's so sad, ie being forced out of your home and even out of your area because of these selfish characters.

I completely agree with these posts. If your neighbours can hear you through the wall, then you are being too loud.

Andypandyboy wrote: »

Has anyone said this? Who wears headpones to watch TV? Who decides if your TV is too loud?

The person or persons who decide if your tv is too loud, is your neighbour (s). As has been stated by several people, if your tv or music can be heard from next door, then it is too loud. Why do you think *I* should have to hear your music and your tv? Some people (unfortunately,) are rather selfish, and think they are entitled to have the tv and music as loud as they like, and to hell with everyone else.

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

:eek: Blimey, glad I don't live next to you, some of what you say is inconsiderate, but some is normal life

I am quite taken aback at this comment. If you consider having the tv and music so loud that the neighbours can hear it through the wall, banging doors frequently, stomping up and down the stairs, and screaming and shouting so loudly that neighbours can hear you, to be 'normal behaviour,' then I have to say, that I am glad I don't live next to you!

SallyD

Everything is fine MONEYISTOOSHORTTOMENTION, but it took me ages to get used to no noise..........although I am in an area with houses/bungalows around me I am very private with hedges etc., and in a weird way I miss the comings and goings of a busy London Street. I was sad to leave the area I was brought up in, and getting used to "up North" but I now have a nice circle of new friends and I do have family nearby. The council were happy to rehouse me into a one bedroomed flat......no way was I risking that!

longwalks1

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

My late m-i-l moved eighteen times in 22 years, all due to the neighbours...

Just saying.

I'd refuse to let any relative have to move because of neighbours after the 2nd time I think

Out,_Vile_Jelly

45002 wrote: »

Personal, I think this is more of a Home-owner not wanting to live next door to Tenants.

Plenty of theses types of threads/post spring up on forums all the time

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I think you're trying to read too much into this- the OP has explained why they didn't think it had changed hands due to a sale.

I suppose there are two types of people in the world:

Those who are mortified when neighbours ask them if they could make less noise, and those whose response is to say "f-you it's my house".

enthusiasticsaver

Three most common reasons for people wanting to change their environment are bad neighbours, excessive noise and parking issues. All down to inconsiderate people. It is not acceptable to live in a semi or terraced house and have the tv on so loud that neighbours find it disturbing particularly if they have young children or late at night. Similar with music. Rows, slamming doors and disruly children also are unacceptable in restaurants and when they cause a disturbance for the neighbours. Common courtesy really.

ruggedtoast

SallyD wrote: »

20 years ago at about 2.15 am a van pulled up and dragged furniture etc, along the path into the house next door accompanied by a woman and small screaming child. Within half an hour "boom boom boom" thundered through my walls. I lived in a terrace and my neighbour two doors down reacted very quickly and hammered on the street door - they did not respond as they simply could not hear us. The music went on for a couple of hours. Come 8am boom boom boom again. Eventually we were able to catch the attention of the woman and explained the music was almost as though it was in our homes. An apology was offered and that she would turn the "sounds" down......I worked all day and other neighbours told me the music was very loud during they day, so much so they could hear it up to 4 doors up, plus the windows were always wide open. We began calling noise patrol but they need to hear it and contacted our housing dept. Council letters were sent, meeting were set up where we all attended and promises made but never kept. This went on for years and as her daughter grew up it got even worse. I sometimes used to get home from work and as I turned into the road could hear the music so used to just drive straight on by and go to a local shopping complex for a couple of hours or the gym. 7 years ago a woman moved in to the house on the other-side of me, followed within a couple of weeks 4 grown up sons...............one of them was a DJ and used to practice his "sets" in the back bedroom. I must mention that two of the sons were tagged as they were gang members and an elder brother was in prison for shooting a man at point blank range.......Mum was very nice and apologetic but the loud music, shouting etc., did not stop. Her boys were very dominating. So now I had it on both sides. The boys were certainly problems, the police often raided the house and our gardens. The thought of retiring and being home more during the day and having to endure more of the nuisance filled me with dread so I took voluntary redundancy and moved out of the house after 33 years in the South to a small detached bungalow up North as I could not afford anything nearer..........so quite which is difficult to get used to, I can listen to my radio and tv with no boom beats in the background, no clip clopping around the wooden floors with flip flops, no shouting,screaming or kitchen cupboard banging. Since I have left the new tenant loves his music, has mental health issues and regularly runs around the garden shouting and screaming. My old neighbour now tells my friends that she wishes I had not moved as she hardly knew I was there and realises now that she must have caused me great problems and is so sorry for all the distress she caused me plus the fact her daughter (22) is now profoundly deaf caused by the music. I miss my old home, I was there for 33 years, due to their inconsideration I had to restart my life somewhere else to live without fear of disturbance.
I had to spend far more money than I wanted too but for peace of mind it has been worth it in that respect.

What do you miss about it? The neighbourhood sounds terrible.

seven-day-weekend

britishboy wrote: »

I'd refuse to let any relative have to move because of neighbours after the 2nd time I think

Well unfortunately my husband had no say in where his mother moved to, for most of those years he was a child/teenager.

The point I was making was that after eighteen moves maybe it was NOT the neighbours who were always at fault?