How much to spend on gift?

hieveryone

Hi all,

I am in a quandry. I am bridesmaid at a friends wedding, a friend of over 10 years, and I am struggling as to how much is appropriate as a gift. I haven't been part of a wedding party in my adult life so have nothing to base it on.

We don't see each other as much as we'd like due to distance/work etc, but we are close and have been for years.

What would you say is an appropriate amount to spend? She doesn't have a list or indeed asked for anything, so I am purely looking for an 'amount' that is appropriate.

Obviously I am attending all day, as is my partner, and the couple are paying for our room/my outfit etc.

Thank you.

sulphate

I spend anything between £20-£40 depending on my personal finances at the time and my relationship/closeness with the couple. If I was a bridesmaid maybe a bit more.

It's not the amount you spend that matters, it's the thought that counts (yes cliche I know). One of my bridesmaids didn't even get me a card

lika_86

I tend to give £100 if both my boyfriend and I are invited, however, if my room was being paid for and otherwise I'd have paid for it myself then I might be inclined to give more.

heartbreak_star

Always go with what you can afford, no more.

HBS x

sarah69696pink

If room outfit etc are paid for I'd say at least £100 (IF you can afford it) I'd hate someone to spend money on me that they could not afford, but if you can afford it then I tend to give between £50-100 for a wedding (depending on day/night/me or me and partner etc) so if lots paid for too I'd want to give a bit more.

Buzzybee90

A wedding I went to recently I spent £40 and worried I was being cheap but it was one of the most expensive gifts, don't feel the need to overspend.

minerva_windsong

I agree with those who've said whatever you want and can afford to give - a good friend will understand and be grateful for whatever they receive.

However, in that scenario, I would probably give £30-50 between me and my OH. But that is entirely down to my personal circumstances, and my bridesmaids are in different situations, so I'm not expecting anything from them (or any other guests) beyond the fact they've chosen to come to our wedding and share the day with us; anything else is a nice extra.

pickledonionspaceraider

for a close long standing friend, £50

Ruby_Roo

If were both invited we tend to give £50 for an evening reception and £100 for the whole day, but if one of us was in the wedding we would probably give a bit more (assuming the couple had paid for our attire) - maybe £150.

BUT those are our circumstances, we both work full time, have no children and we don't get invited to a great many weddings so it's not like we're paying out for gifts several times a year. You should go with what you can afford and only you know that

Marshmallow82

Are you giving cash or present?

From both I'd say £100. Meal will probably be £30 a head plus hotel room £100-£200. Although if you get a present amount does not matter just pick something

Floss

OP, rather than give an amount, why not consider something personal to her & her hubby? My BM / best friend gave us a beautiful silver photo frame to put one of our wedding photos in, and a bottle of fizz for our first weekiversary