Is this right?

danksybaby

Hi there,

I've closed this chapter of my life but something a friend has said has made me want to ask the question just incase!

2 years ago my fianc!e of 9 years left me. We had been in living in our owned house for 4 years (all bills halved exactly) but because the mortgage company said I couldn't afford the mortgage by myself my partner forced me to sign the deeds over to him so he could have the house as his affordability is fine.

This I did because I was in such a state and was advised by himself and his family it was my best option. I then had to find my own place ASAP as he wanted me out straight away. I left with my belongings and the washing machine (necessity obviously!) as the ex told me as my new flat was too small to accommodate any of the furniture we had in the existing house then I couldn't take it. Due to my head being in a mess I just accepted this and didn't contest it. He gave me £2k to get rid of me but none of this was mentioned during the solicitors sorting out the deeds etc so there is no record of this as being a 'deal' for me to leave.

I should now mention my dad died a few month before this all took place and I was left with an amount of money. I paid for a new kitchen, new boiler system, new front door to the cost of approx £8k and then I was going through a split. So almost all of my inheritance went on the house. We had also booked our wedding venue which I had paid the deposit, I had bought my wedding dress etcso more money spent.

I then left set up home, pulled myself together and got my life back on track and I'm back to my normal self realising the above was just what I needed to start living again.

In hindsight I should have stayed put or at least put up a fight to what I was owed and made him sell the house due to what I had recently put in as well as my deposit.

My friend has then mentioned in passing about an article they have recently read about in which years later an ex has been able to contest money they think they are owed.

I have accepted this is not going to happen but I was wondering if anyone had seen this article so I could have a read up on it?

Sorry for waffling!

Thanks

19lottie82

Honestly? Yes, maybe you could take him to court, but I don't think there is any guarantee you'd win. Or even a good chance tbh. This was 2 years ago and you already signed the house over to him. Regarding the other stuff, your ex will prob have a record of the 2k he paid you, and this will be raised in court, as will why you've taken so long to raise this claim.

A lawyer will be expensive and you could be left with two legal bills (yours and his), if you lose.

My advice would be forget about it, take it as lesson learned, hold your head up high and keep on moving on.

fannyanna

^^ What she said

danksybaby

Yeah I did think this and it's not something I'll be going to pursue. Was just curious to see if there was an article about it :-)

I've wrote it off as a learning curve.....this ship has sailed ha!

BJV

It sounds as though your ex was a nightmare. Although we could all do with extra money and the timing of it all could not of been worse I think you are better off as far away from him as possible.


Also rally glad to hear that you are getting back your old self.

roobee13

Agree with other posters - write it off as a learning experience and don't look back.

Karma is a funny old thing but have faith in it (he may have met someone since who has fleeced him for all he has, or the boiler may already have broken several times).

Take the moral high ground here and keep moving forward, good luck OP.