Baby 6 months old next week but still not sleeping through help!

immoral_angeluk

I should also mention that she's still in our room in her cot because we wanted to wait until she was sleeping through before we put her in with her sister....

moozikgal

If she is sleeping in the room with you, do either of you snore or talk in your sleep which could be waking her up?

immoral_angeluk

moozikgal wrote: »

If she is sleeping in the room with you, do either of you snore or talk in your sleep which could be waking her up?

I have been known to talk in my sleep and Dh snores but it usually wakes me up before K..

WestonDave

Ditch the dummy?

Not going to be a popular suggestion especially as you are already exhausted and that seems to be the one thing that works.

However what I'm wondering is whether she is too reliant on her dummy to get to sleep. We all sleep in cycles and at certain points (I seem to recall every 40 minutes) we are close to waking - most of us just go back to sleep but it is a knack that has to develop. If she can't do that without a dummy then she is going to keep disturbing you to come and put it in for her. I've got no axe to grind with dummies but their one weakness is that often kids can't put it in for themselves so as in your case it requires you to get up and do it. (the bottle may or may not just be an extension of the comfort she gets from the dummy).

If you try this be careful not to substitute on form of intervention for another - e.g. picking her up and cuddling her to sleep. Controlled crying is hard especially if you are tired, but it does seem to me that she needs to learn how to get herself off. I would also choose your time to introduce it - if you can do it at a weekend or other time when someone can give you a break in the day to catch up on some sleep it may help you get through what will be a tough time, but assuming it works (some kids just don't sleep well!) it shouldn't take that many nights - you should see some progress after a couple of days.

NB I'm not anti dummy - some people seem to get a bit heated about for and against - we've used them and also taken them away when it seemed they were being counter productive.

abbecer

You have my sympathy. It is so exhausting when they don't sleep through. I too have PND like you and i think that makes it harder still. I have been really unlucky with my youngest son. He still doesn't sleep through and he's 30 months!!! I'm sure K won't be like this though. My eldest first slept through at 11 months cos he had colic every night from 12 till 6 am. I will watch this thread for advice that i may be able to use.

Good luck

Rebecca x

tlf

Hi

I have hardly posted on these forums so please forgive me.

Its probably not a popular choice but I am a fan of controlled crying. I'm going to lie it is very hard to hear a baby crying but if you persevere it is well worth it.
We always made sure with our lo that there was nothing wrong with him, not hungry, clean bum not teething etc and then just went for it. We usually leave him crying for 5 mins at a time and then check on him (without him knowing). Then leave him again. A lot of the time waking up is a matter of habbit. Does she wake up at set times? Our lo used to wake up every morning at 2.00 (very annoying) until we introduced controlled crying. It took 3 nights of screaming and then it was sussed.

Don't get me wrong our lo is nearly 2 now and we still have "moments" but I think that that is just children in general. Most of the time he settles himself.

I also agree with getting rid of the dummy at night. Although it probably is a comforter it may be disturbing her when she loses it and can't find it again.

Oh dear I sound like a really harsh mother now lol

Good Luck

Penry

Hi there, I kept our wee one in with us till she was almost one as she was waking several times a night and I didn't want her to wake her sister once they were sharing a room. However, when we did move her (as I couldn't stand it anymore and was desperate) she slept much better (or maybe I didn't hear every twitch). She is 14 months now and still wakes once to guzzle a full bottle of milk which I'm deterimed to tackle very soon.... What are peoples experience of controlled crying when there's two children in a very small space? Good luck, lack of sleep is dreadful.

MadMonkey

I have a 10 month old who only started sleeping through a month ago.

We put him in with ds1 when he was 6 months as we thought maybe we were waking him up but it made no difference - just meant we had to run fast to get him when he woke up so he did not wake ds1 up as well !!

We could not try CC or any other form of letting him shout and cry as it would have woken the other 2 up and tbh it was easier to get up, feed him and put him back down and be back asleep within 15 minutes then spend hours messing about.

So we just fed him when he woke up and did not try to stop him. When he was 9 months old he just started to sleep and hs done since.

It is very hard but we just sort of stopped stressing about it and resigned ourselves to the fact that we would get up.

Also NEVER count how many hours sleep you have had - it is pointless and just stresses you out !

Becles

What is your bedtime routine like? I swear by a routine!

From birth, it's been a warm bath, then into the bedroom with dimmed lights for drying, quick massage and pj's on. Then cuddled up in my bed for a feed, with just the bedside light on. Then into the cot in their own room, with a few soothing words, some head strokes and then left in the dark to go to sleep by themselves. We don't use dummies as I can't stand them!

As they grew older, the feed was dropped and the soothing words changed into me reading a story.

The boys are 10 and 8 now, and they still have the warm bath, into pj's and then read themselves before going to bed. They still like their heads stroked and backs rubbed when they feel poorly though!

They have all slept through from being about 8 weeks old. Charlotte is 10 weeks now and sleeps from approx 11pm to 7-8am.

immoral_angeluk

Becles wrote: »

What is your bedtime routine like? I swear by a routine!

From birth, it's been a warm bath, then into the bedroom with dimmed lights for drying, quick massage and pj's on. Then cuddled up in my bed for a feed, with just the bedside light on. Then into the cot in their own room, with a few soothing words, some head strokes and then left in the dark to go to sleep by themselves. We don't use dummies as I can't stand them!

As they grew older, the feed was dropped and the soothing words changed into me reading a story.

The boys are 10 and 8 now, and they still have the warm bath, into pj's and then read themselves before going to bed. They still like their heads stroked and backs rubbed when they feel poorly though!

They have all slept through from being about 8 weeks old. Charlotte is 10 weeks now and sleeps from approx 11pm to 7-8am.

We don't have a bath every night as she has eczema but it's always the same time and same procedure ever night! Having a 2 yr old as well we wanted to make sure we got a routine set down early on but it doesn't seem to be doing any good!