forced to work alongside bully?

FBaby

You are setting yourself up for coming across as uncollaborative by refusing to go to mediation. Whatever your trust in its outcome, it's what the outcome of not agreeing to it you should focus on.

patman99

Op, if I were you, I'd take the mediation. As others have said, it shows a willingness to co-operate with the company in dealing with the issue.

Good luck with appealing the parts of the grievance that were not upheld & remember, you can always keep a diary and when you have enough evidence, raise another grievance based on discrimination due to your disability. This should get the attention of the company if nothing else will.

Bantex_2

Why not just punch him?

1DayAAT

thanks for all the replies and advice.

yeah, it is the same guy. (i'd love to punch him! haha).

the reason i cannot do mediation is that he has been bullying me for 3 years and i have at least 3 times after very serious events taken it upon myself to sort things out with him, start afresh - with him playing along with it, being 'friends' again etc - only to find his acts of malice continue behind my back. i didn't take it formally over the past 3 years so this was very much a drastic step for me, breaking point. i don't feel i can ever trust someone like this at all as i believe he is a toxic person through and through.
(he turns his negativity in any way possible, to any one possible - it just so happens that unfortunately I am in closest range and am slightly vulnerable/easy target).

ah well, we'll see what the appeal hearing brings and go from there. i really don't want to leave.... i enjoy my job and don't want to be forced out because of a disgusting excuse for a human being making life awful.

1DayAAT

oh - and yes, he is aware of my disability informally and formally, the colleagues who work closest to me were given a talk about it after my diagnosis, but this just made him more hostile and resentful

patman99

As we have all said, give the mediation a go. That way, they will be more certain to uphold the next complaint as your willingness to sort it amicably will have been noted.

I know it's hard to do, but in the long run you will be seen as having been co-operative and not as some employee who is not prepared to shift from their position. By not participating in mediation, you will be seen as un-co-operative and thus further complaints are likely to be rejected.

If you are not already in a union, it might be worth joining one just for the legal advice and representation should you raise a further grievance in the future (and 'yes', I would raise one based on disability discrimination once I had enough evidence to nail him good and proper).

Bantex_2

1DayAAT wrote: »

oh - and yes, he is aware of my disability informally and formally, the colleagues who work closest to me were given a talk about it after my diagnosis, but this just made him more hostile and resentful

Does your disability mean you could appear to be getting preferential treatment to others?