Too harsh?

Beardmidget

To be fair- I agree that the thing is worth £73... I was responding more to the seller's inflated valuation of it. Most of us expect to achieve specific performance of a contract: I.e. Pay for item, receive it as described, which is what I expected until the seller threw a spanner in the works.

(I am still not sure why you have a problem with people who put their qualifications after their name in formal correspondence. I work in a world where that is actually a requirement. Of course if I claim to be things I'm not, that would be misrepresentation and therefore fraud. I don't expect to win that one though.)

usefulmale

Beardmidget wrote: »

(I am still not sure why you have a problem with people who put their qualifications after their name in formal correspondence. I work in a world where that is actually a requirement. Of course if I claim to be things I'm not, that would be misrepresentation and therefore fraud. I don't expect to win that one though.)

Because, quite frankly, it makes you look like an arrogant, superior knob. You are not communicating within your world of work, so you should address it as plain Mr Beardmidget.

But, yes. Good on you for sleeping on it. You refused the cancellation and the seller has to pay fees on the £72. You can just open an INR case and get your money back easily.

Beardmidget

usefulmale wrote: »

You are not communicating within your world of work, so you should address it as plain Mr Beardmidget.

I take on your opinion, and I add this only because I think it is an interesting conversation we are having. I (and my colleagues who are physicians and not surgeons) am referred to as Dr. Beardmidget at all times, and maybe that is because we're all pricks, but I do think that it has something to do with the fact that I am expected to acquit myself in that role even outside of work by the GMC, and also on the occasion that I am asked a question by a friend, or arrive at the scene of an accident where the ambulance hasn't arrived. (Not often, but it has happened on several occasions).

usefulmale

Beardmidget wrote: »

I take on your opinion, and I add this only because I think it is an interesting conversation we are having. I (and my colleagues who are physicians and not surgeons) am referred to as Dr. Beardmidget at all times, and maybe that is because we're all pricks, but I do think that it has something to do with the fact that I am expected to acquit myself in that role even outside of work by the GMC, and also on the occasion that I am asked a question by a friend, or arrive at the scene of an accident where the ambulance hasn't arrived. (Not often, but it has happened on several occasions).

I don't think for one moment that you are a !!!!!, I just said that your letter made you look like one. In the situation that you are in regarding the number plate, it is totally irrelevant that your are a doctor (or Lord, or Prince or member of the Klingon High Council), so outside of work, and in non-medical matters, plain old Mr will suffice.

onenonblonde

I had a similar situation to you when bidding on a set of six brand new real leather dining chairs.
The seller was a newbie and had started the auction at £5.00, but forgot to set a reserve.
I "won" them for £5.00, but she emailed explaining her error and although I politely argued that she was obliged to fulfill her side of the agreement, she ignored all correspondence sent via ebay.
I requested her phone number and called her, but was told I had got the wrong number (even though she was in the next town and in the local phone book!)
When I emailed again to say "I will be arriving at your house with a van at 1pm Saturday to fetch the chairs. If you're not home, I will sit outside and wait for you to get back", she miraculously replied straight away and begged me not to do so, (not that I would have done that, but it was to see if I could get a response and maybe she would offer the chairs at a mutually acceptable price.

She stated that the chairs had been a wedding present for her son but then his bride jilted him and the wedding never went ahead......and as I read all these pathetic excuses I thought If I pursue this she will just lie and make excuses all the way along, it will get me nowhere, I will have to move on and put it behind me.

I now have six secondhand chairs from IKEA. Not as nice as hers, but saved me the stress of pursuing her.

campdave

onenonblonde wrote: »

I had a similar situation to you when bidding on a set of six brand new real leather dining chairs.
The seller was a newbie and had started the auction at £5.00, but forgot to set a reserve.
I "won" them for £5.00, but she emailed explaining her error and although I politely argued that she was obliged to fulfill her side of the agreement, she ignored all correspondence sent via ebay.
I requested her phone number and called her, but was told I had got the wrong number (even though she was in the next town and in the local phone book!)
When I emailed again to say "I will be arriving at your house with a van at 1pm Saturday to fetch the chairs. If you're not home, I will sit outside and wait for you to get back", she miraculously replied straight away and begged me not to do so, (not that I would have done that, but it was to see if I could get a response and maybe she would offer the chairs at a mutually acceptable price.

She stated that the chairs had been a wedding present for her son but then his bride jilted him and the wedding never went ahead......and as I read all these pathetic excuses I thought If I pursue this she will just lie and make excuses all the way along, it will get me nowhere, I will have to move on and put it behind me.

I now have six secondhand chairs from IKEA. Not as nice as hers, but saved me the stress of pursuing her.

Well done, you're brilliant.

Beardmidget

Interesting- that's actually quite eye-opening to me as I had generally found it was accepted practice for medics to be called Dr. in work, and in the bank/supermarket... etc. It probably comes from the tendency to use the title at every opportunity to save a bit of cash! I sometimes get a better deal on insurance/ loans/ cards because of it. I often feel a bit cheeky asking but when people take your details if you say you're Dr and not Mr, they are often forthcoming in offering a deal you might not have known about. (Got a £1750 deposit contribution from fiat towards a 500 for my wife- not a deal that was advertised but given when going through my enquiry details).