Need to get myself together: The beginning

monz

Sorry I have not posted. Been so many arguments and my mum and dad calling me terrible names to a point my son did not want to stay with him (they done this in front of him!) I took him out for weekend Marvel Avengers in Glasgow then Amazonia on Sunday just me and him.

I booked Grand Hotel International. Was going to stay Rose Inn but this included breakfast lol

My mum has now decided she is done with me. She says she is cancelling her holiday that she booked and tbh as awful as I know I will sound but I am relieved. I am to stand outside when letting them see Connor and to stay outside when getting him. This all came together when I asked if they could watch him a Sunday night next month as its my best friends 30th and she booked a log cabin just for us4girls. Thats her who has been through so much recently. My mum made a joke face (you know the type beneath her) and went oh log cabin and i just went yeah and.... well I got called every name under sun (put it this way cannot put words on this lol) my friends got called scum as well... charming eh.. Then stated that this Wednesday they will not watch my boy for Impractical Jokers that I booked a year ago and laughed at me saying oh you have noone else go get your scum friends. So I left with Connor, my sister has agreed to watch him and keep him that night but never again am I booking any gigs for myself, its not worth it and not having me not having anyone else shoved in my face again. Got a book signing of Kayla Itness on Sunday afternoon will ask my sister for that. Its ticketed event and I am not sure I am allowed to bring my boy, my dad went oh you going to get canned and patch your son until I went its actually a book signing.

So yeah been feeling like rubbish past few days. never will i book anything for myself again if this is whats happening. I told my friend I have to leave day earlier from her 30th on Sunday afternoon too and cannot stay.

How is everyone

17 days to payday xx

abba1772

Wow your parents sound delightful.......I have very little contact with mine and they've never looked after any of my kids but I'm lucky that my gran and mil are at hand if I need them

Can't believe it all escalated because of a girls weekend away and worse still was that they did it in front of your son I'm not being funny but if they say things like that to your face in front of your son I dread to think what they are saying about you in front of him when your not there :mad:

Fingers crossed she cancels her holiday so you and your little bot can have the time of your life's without party poopers tagging aong xx

Chin up Hunni xx

monz

Thanks Abba

Its all about control with them and they know I literally have no one else its just me and my boy. They doing this keep control I mean who do you know at 31 when going out with her mates they are demanding their friends numbers, where they are going etc. Also if I have not text them let them know they show up my doorstep in my own house see noone back for a party!!?? And accused me in my street (bare in mind me n guy I was seeing at time were sleeping in my bed when they showed up my door) of demanding see my arms as if I was a drug user... never in my life have I ever or will ever. Each to their own but not for me. So in a way I hope they are done with me as its bringing me down so much... maybe I am ungrateful sounding but I can barely breathe!! If I did not have my son I would be off now with no contact details.

They said they will keep watching him at weekends but I am rethinking everything now. Too miserable and cant stop crying xx

misstara

Aw monz sorry to hear this, sounds like you're better off keeping your distance and just concentrating on you and your wee one.

Sending lots of hugs :grouphug::grouphug: well a few dodgy looking hugs anyway

abba1772

Sounds like they haven't realised they need to cut the apron strings, they have no right to dictate how you live your life

You've got your head screwed on..........come on you've won £5000 and first thing you did was clear your debt and put money by for a deposit for a house, I think most people would go on a wee spending spree including me lol xx

Golightly72

I'm sorry about your parents Monz, they do sound very controlling!

I'm sorry, they expect to see your son, but expect you to stand outside when dropping him off or picking him up? If I've understood that right, that's outrageous!

You are both a package deal, if they want to contact with your son then they have to be civil to you. To be honest, if they behave like this I'm not sure it wouldn't be best for your son to have limited contact with them anyway, so they don't try and control him too?

I'm glad you have booked Florida though, I'm sure you and your boy will have a fab time together.

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monz you do not need that kind of negativity in you or your boys life. It's family I know but they are just being so horrible to you.

You will have a much better time on holiday without them anyway!

I am so mad!!!!

Dxxx

monz

Thanks everyone. I am just at a loss right now at what to do. After this week (Impractical Jokers tomorrow and Kayla Itness Sunday) never going to book anything for myself again unless I can take my son. Will not give them satisfaction to watch him for me, will manage.

Did I mention my mum is my boss. This morning came in and stated if she sees me showing a woman a picture of sales again I got in my phone will confiscate it off me.... but its ok everyone on their phone constantly especially her. I am now going to start monitoring and writing down all things she does to me in work, I bet that in less than 6 months I will have a case against her for unfair treatment.

Just so fed up and trapped feeling being needlessly controlled and I am 32 in a couple weeks. x

[Deleted User]

Oh god, that must be so hard.

There really is no escaping her.

Surely other people can see how unfairly she is treating you!

Dxxx

monz

They cant do anything as she is the big boss !!! I might just try get another job elsewhere which sucks as its a good paying job x