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Sorry I'm confused, you say you are about to care for your father in law, does it mean you are married?0
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If theres an estate (which as there is a house is the case) you wont get help with the funeral.
You say you cant sell the house as you are going to care for your FIL (so Im assuming youre saying you need the house to live in as I can only assume it has been left to you) so you are choosing not to use the estate to pay for the funeral, so you wont get additional help with it.0 -
Was your father in the forces at all? You might be able to get some help from SSAFA.0
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marliepanda wrote: »If theres an estate (which as there is a house is the case) you wont get help with the funeral.
You say you cant sell the house as you are going to care for your FIL (so Im assuming youre saying you need the house to live in as I can only assume it has been left to you) so you are choosing not to use the estate to pay for the funeral, so you wont get additional help with it.
I must admit to being flummoxed on this, as I thought the same thing. If you've been left the house, then there's a Will, and your Dad has a solicitor.
The Funeral Director's bill is then presented to the Solicitor, and, if necessary, a charge is put against the house. Alternatively, use the house as collateral, and obtain a bank loan for the funeral.
I know sometimes when you have so much to deal with, you can't think straight. I hope it all works out OK for you.
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SandraScarlett wrote: »The Funeral Director's bill is then presented to the Solicitor, and, if necessary, a charge is put against the house. Alternatively, use the house as collateral, and obtain a bank loan for the funeral.
I don't think a FD will wait for a house to be sold at some unknown time in the future to get the bill paid.0 -
I don't think a FD will wait for a house to be sold at some unknown time in the future to get the bill paid.
That wasn't what I said. The Funeral Director could present his bill to the Solicitor who can pay this from the Estate. I have experience of this happening to a family member, who had problems with siblings contributing to anything, and refusing point blank to even sign the funeral documents.
My cousin was advised by the Funeral Director to present any invoices to the solicitor, who has the power, because they hold the deeds.
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SandraScarlett wrote: »That wasn't what I said. The Funeral Director could present his bill to the Solicitor who can pay this from the Estate. I have experience of this happening to a family member, who had problems with siblings contributing to anything, and refusing point blank to even sign the funeral documents.
My cousin was advised by the Funeral Director to present any invoices to the solicitor, who has the power, because they hold the deeds.
But there isn't any money in the estate and the OP isn't planning to sell the house so there's no way for the money to be recovered.0 -
But there isn't any money in the estate and the OP isn't planning to sell the house so there's no way for the money to be recovered.
Op gained a mortgage recently so had income then. Surely the state can't pay funerals of those with capital.Tomorrow is the most important thing in life0 -
Was your father in the armed forces as the Royal Brittish legion may be able to help with funeral costs or advice if you are unable to pay.
My Grandad passed away without any money in his bank account, no house of his own or items to sell.. My Dad struggled to meet the cost of a very basic funeral at the time and the Brittish legion gave a grant to cover a basic cremation and £20 towards flowers they would even have helped with transport for my Dad to attend if he had needed it.
I think in order for the council to take responsibility there has to be no offspring/family to take on the costs. In our case my uncles who now live overseas and have had nothing to do with their father for 30 years could not be held to the bill, but Dad who visited etc was accountable.
I would suggest contacting CAB and asking for help. This must be a common situation.0
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