Should my Ex still be paying maintenance for my 18 year old son?

Vectis

So, if you weren't receiving maintenance from your ex, would you be giving your son the equivalent money every month whilst he was at university? Or would you expect him to stand on his own two feet and get grants and/or a job to cover expenses?

I realise it's in the agreement, but perhaps your son could see if he could manage without it like many other students do. Just a thought.

Marshmallow82

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Brighton_belle

Flossie. wrote: »

They could stay 4-5 years, and the parent (usually the father,) would be paying for them until they're 22/23!

I don't understand, as the 'child' would surely be getting grants/bursaries/student loans.

But isn't the level of loan a student can get dependent on his parents income? Society in this case doesn't treat them as independent adults.
Parenting goes beyond 18 in my opinion and experience and if a parent can afford it, surely they would want and expect to help with expenses while their child is at Uni - especially if their parent's income has limited the amount of loans that can be got. And it isn't always easy to get part time jobs.

**Patty**

Marshmallow82 wrote: »

Please post this in CSA forum there are experts in there and a lot of wrong info in here. CSA is not paid when the child is at uni

OP has a Court Order & hasn't mentioned the CSA.

Buzzybee90

Brighton_belle wrote: »

But isn't the level of loan a student can get dependent on his parents income? Society in this case doesn't treat them as independent adults.
Parenting goes beyond 18 in my opinion and experience and if a parent can afford it, surely they would want and expect to help with expenses while their child is at Uni - especially if their parent's income has limited the amount of loans that can be got. And it isn't always easy to get part time jobs.

I don't agree with students being supported by parents but that's besides the point, the ops child will likely get more than those lucky enough to have their parents together, for obvious reasons.

74jax

Marshmallow82 wrote: »

Please post this in CSA forum there are experts in there and a lot of wrong info in here. CSA is not paid when the child is at uni

The op doesn't get CSA so I'm not sure how they could help.

burlington6

Would you complain if he paid the money directly to your ''child''?

Morglin

As far as i know, students are thought to be able to claim grants/loans while at Uni, and can do part time work, so no child maintenance. .

He is technically an adult now, and would have to claim from his Dad off his own bat.

Lin

Marshmallow82

**Patty** wrote: »

OP has a Court Order & hasn't mentioned the CSA.

ah sorry misread that

cazziebo

Whether people agree or not with child support post 18, the costs don't magically stop. Unless that adult child pays market rate for bed and board (and I don't know any who do!) then there is a cost.

If the child is a student and lives at home then the government expects parents to subsidise them. If the child goes away to uni then it's unlikely that student loans, earnings from part time work etc will cover Hall of Residence fees and subsistence. They will still have a bedroom to come home to during the holidays (never mind the additional costs of keeping a fridge full and the washing machine going!)

I don't particularly agree with it either but that's just the way it is. (I thought I was hard done to as a student in the 70s with no tuition fees, on a full grant, housing benefit and unemployment benefit during the holidays!)

You don't stop being a parent on the child's 18th birthday. Thankfully my children's father agrees.