financial help after death of parent

dippy3103

margaretclare wrote: »

I don't understand how you were getting 'maintenance' from him as you say he wasn't working? Where was that money coming from?

Good point... How much was he paying if he wasn't working? Can't have been much if it was CSA deductions from benefit.

Indie_Kid

margaretclare wrote: »

I don't understand how you were getting 'maintenance' from him as you say he wasn't working? Where was that money coming from?

You pay £5 a week if on benefits.

Mojisola

lmcgbmb wrote: »

I was told after he died that I was not entitled to any financial help raising the children as we were divorced. Had we not divorced I could have claimed a widows benefit until the children reached 18.

Had I known I'd have suffered financially like this in the event of his death id have never divorced him.

lmcgbmb wrote: »

My ex is an ex because he put me through years of domestic abuse my children still suffer now and havr counselling for some of the horrors they witnessed.

It will all be down to you now to find the money to bring up the children but, with a man like that, getting away from him was the best gift you could ever give yourself and your children.

It just wouldn't have been worth keeping a connection with him just to get money.

Have you made sure that you are claiming all the benefits you are entitled to as a single parent?

xylophone

Did your ex husband have a pension of any kind?

Pollycat

Mojisola wrote: »

It just wouldn't have been worth keeping a connection with him just to get money.

This is true - and is what prompted my 'mercenary' comment that the OP took exception to.

Additionally, the OP says her ex remarried so she may not have had a choice in whether she remained married to him or not, he may well have divorced her in order to remarry.

TELLIT01

People posting questions on the board are often under a great deal of stress and statements can be written which give a false impression of the poster.
Maybe it would be better if more people sat on their hands and then simply posted factual information rather than sitting in judgement?

lmcgbmb

Thank you to the kinder replies. I divorced him for mental and physical cruelty. His 3rd wife had just had her 1st beating when he died suddenly. He was paying 6.50 a week through his benefits as he refused to work as he knew he'd pay more. That was his words. Im not mercenary im happy to bring up my children alone but a pittance to some of you was better than nothing. I dont want his pension all i was asking for was help with my children which if we were separated rather than divorced I would have been entitled to for my children only and when they reached 18 it would stop. Why they should suffer financially because I was brave enough to run away was all I was asking. I won't bother visiting this forum again as I foolishly thought I was getting expert advice mot people's opinions. Thank you to the few who offered that.

nannytone_2

i cant really see that your children will suffer signuificantly through the loss of £6.50 a week!
tiy say your ex refused to work because he'd have to pau you more, yet in your OP you say he used to give you extra money when he could 'afford it'. thats a bit contradictory

GwylimT

Did you not have a life insurance policy on him? If he has a pension you maybe be able to claim a proportion of it's value for your children unless you agreed not to do this as part of the divorce settlement.

Pollycat

Have you checked to see if you are getting any benefits that you may be entitled to - see my post #4?