Not so Good!!

Sezzagirl

I've come for a quick, anonymous vent. I can't say this in real life - it just seems so churlish.

All morning I've been seeing friends and their children getting fabulous results in their A and AS levels. It seems like it's A's and A*'s all round out there and I am so pleased for them all:j

The only thing is, my child didn't do as well as they wanted to. Got ok results but they're not what they were expecting and certainly not what they're capable of. :(I can't shout about their results to everyone and, although I can be supportive, I want my moment of saying how well they've done!:T

Now we're lucky. This isn't the end of any dreams and could be the wake-up call needed but it is a bit galling to see how well "everyone" else is doing!:cool: (and yes, I know, it's probably the same "everyone" who let their friends keep a tribe of hamsters in the bedroom, stay up til 2am every school day and never makes them eat anything green!!!):D

Phew, ok that's better! As you were!;)

lulu_92

You should be proud of your child no matter what. A levels can be difficult and you should be happy that they've come out with something and that they dedicated two years to making sure they didn't fail.

Can they still go to their chosen university? (if that's what they're planning on doing next)

January20

Not the end of their dream so not the end of the world. It could be a kick up the ..... if they didn't work hard enough.

Well done to your child (unless they got 3U of course )

I was walking behind a boy in the street today. He was on the phone. I'm not going to say what I heard but the thought that entered my mind was that today is not a day to give your child grief, today is a day to congratulate them if they have done well, and hug them and wipe their tears if they have failed or just not done as well as they wanted.

Sezzagirl

Luckily, this is AS so they have next year to get the results they need for uni

I am very proud of them for all the things they do in life and for all the times people things like what a good worker they are and how reliable etc.:T

Just a little bit disappointed that they could have done better and haven't:cool:

Sezzagirl

and, being very childish, I want my turn to boast!!

lika_86

Sezzagirl wrote: »

Luckily, this is AS so they have next year to get the results they need for uni

I am very proud of them for all the things they do in life and for all the times people things like what a good worker they are and how reliable etc.:T

Just a little bit disappointed that they could have done better and haven't:cool:

Better that it's now rather than next year or even later on at university when resits aren't so easy to come by.

Plus, who wants to be the mum boasting about little Timmy anyway? I hate those people.

LEJC

or indeed rather than not so good....how about not as bad as it could have been..
Like you say its possibly the wake up call needed..



Sometimes life thows that curved ball...but its still worth acknowledging that they have completed the course and have results that will no doubt secure their future pathway.


Its very difficult when the results are good but not as good as expected....but still worth celebrating and supporting...
I'm sure there are loads of parents in your situation and you're totally right to be very proud of your kids today!


I have a DS who is awaiting the GCSE'S next week....and I really dont know which way it will go...he's more than capable of very good grades,but just seemed to "float" through the whole process....and I worry that again,like you the grades will be good but just not quite what he was capable of.....but we will face that if and when it happens and there is a backup set of A levels he can do if the grades are lower....so again its worth celebrating the achievements.

Ziggazee

Sezzagirl. Why not boast anyway? I assume that whatever results your child got you're proud of them anyway?

My son is due to get his GCSE's next week. My Facebook page is filled with people praising their children on their A Level results today. I fully intend to praise my son on his results next week......whether he gets the results he wants or not.

Whatever results they get there is always a way round it.

duchy

Plenty of kids don't get the results they or their parents expect at AS. Sometimes they've picked the wrong subjects, sometimes they aren't focused and othertimes they want to change horses to GNVQ . (You can still go to uni with GVNQ btw)
I'd be asking if AS levels are right for your child and why they aren't as motivated as some of their peers. A levels aren't the right path for everyone even everyone bright !

Carmina-Piranha_2

I've just seen someone's facebook post congratulating his son on getting the grades he needed to get into his chosen uni course. No mention of the actual grades, just proud of him for putting in the effort and sticking at it and getting through.

That's what I felt after mine passed the first year of his level 3 BTECH. I was just so proud of him for buckling down in the final two weeks and making an effort! He could have done better, he knows that, but he could also have dropped out before the end of year like most of his mates did.

If you really want your moment of boasting, then just put something like my friend put - say you're so proud of your child for getting through to year thirteen, and don't mention the grades. Anyone who actually asks the grades after a post like that will look very small minded and silly. My friend just has loads of likes and congratulations to her son, and nobody has tried to suggest that he might not have done as well as their child did.

Hezzawithkids

Gah I hate the peer pressure at times like this! This is also when social media comes into its worst.

This time last year we were scraping my DD off the ceiling because she didn't get the grades she needed for her first choice uni, only missing out by a couple of points. The fact that all her friends and cousins got their first choices just piled on the pressure and it was quite a challenge to sound happy for them while not undermining DD's -still incredibly impressive - achievements. After a while I stopped looking at Facebook. Within 24 hours DD had accepted her 2nd choice place and - one year later - couldn't be happier. She loves the course, the campus, her new friends and student life. Silver linings and all that.