How to remove son's girlfriend

moomoomama27

I think this is a job for him. At 24 he should be capable of ending a relationship. If he really needs moral support then be there with him, but I think its a bit spineless getting his parent to break up with his girlfriend, whatever the circumstances.

Marshmallow82

The son needs to be the one to end the relationship. And any future relationships. Maybe you should get him to move out and take some responsibility

System

Is the girlfriend paying rent? If so there might be legal procedures which should be followed in terms of evicting somebody who could be classed as a tenant (I don't know).

If it is just an informal arrangement, hopefully you can all come to an agreement that her living there hasn't worked out and she should move on.

sharnad

Your son should tell her it's over and give her time to pack

redpete

Alfrescodave wrote: »

Question is how best to do this :-
> put her clothes in black bags for her when she returns from work ?

That strikes me as cruel and cowardly

> tell her that relationship isn't working and ask her to pack own bags and it would be best for her to return to her parents and offer her transport ?

This is of course the better way to do it (and should be the son doing it not you). If this doesn't have the desired result then next steps can be considered.

Lily-Rose_3

This kind of tale sounds so familiar. I feel like I have heard something like this on



She will probably be pregnant next. (Probably already is.)

Seriously, who moves their girlfriend in after a MONTH?! And what kind of parent would throw out a young teen onto the streets?! You sound like a charming family. Sounds like she dodged a bullet to me!

PasturesNew

avogadro wrote: »

Is the girlfriend paying rent? If so there might be legal procedures which should be followed in terms of evicting somebody who could be classed as a tenant (I don't know).

She's just a lodger, a house guest. Has no rights. She has a right to have her belongings treated with respect and made available to her for a reasonable amount of time (at least 3 months) .... and morally there is an obligation in how it's dealt with. But she has no tenant rights at all.

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

And when you have tossed her on the street, get rid of the 24 year old as well!

System

When all this is behind you, you need to have a word with your son. Tell him he is not to invite people to stay at your home on a permanent basis without your approval.

Actually, if it was me I'd be really mean and say "if you want to live with your girlfriend, find your own place to live in". No way would my son move his girlfriend into my home on a long term basis.... but ive told him that already.

duchy

I don't think that is mean just sensible.
Having to put a bit of effort into moving in together tends to focus the mind on whether it is something you really want to do rather than drift into.