Throwing out rude flatmates guest

wattc

meg72 wrote: »

Did you have a word with the tenant before informing the letting Agency. The fact that he had a guest staying in his room would not have affected other tenants much, he pays the rent per room not person.

There are rules in the house about having guests, which my flatmate is fully aware of (as he had THREE people living in his double room a few years ago, but made lots of excuses and the agency let him off).

By your logic, every rented house in England should have a few free-loaders who don't pay anything or don't have a rental agreement - why not, what could possibly go wrong?

Thanks anyway.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

He ignores you and gives you dirty looks? I think you need the police to deal with this, get onto them ASAP, it sounds like this guy's committing the crime of the century here.

suse*

The problem with living with strangers is there will always be conflicts like this. People will rub each other the wrong way, and sometimes not even realise they are doing it. The only way to survive this is to find somewhere by yourself or find a mix of similar minded people.

You will never be happy sharing with someone who has lots of friends round and takes over the lounge by the sounds of it, unless you can find a way to make friends with them too. I'm not saying you need to be best friends or anything, but just to make it easier for all of you there needs to be effort on both sides.

The landlord / agency is not going to like it if you keep running to them saying there are 3 people in a room or being a snitch, especially if they have let them live there for so long they obviously are fine with that tennant. I agree it can make a bit difference in bills having more people though but it does sound this house share is not well suited.

You will just make yourself more upset if you try and change people that won't be changed that way. There is a saying it is like taking poision and expecting your enemies to die, so by staying you're expecting them to change to fit your will but that isn't going to happen. All you can do is look and see if you can find yourself a better fit else where. There is nothing worse than feeling a stranger in your own house, and for your own sanity no matter how good a location or nice a house it is, if you're not happy you should move. For your mental health and a better fit a longer commute will make it worth it.

Just take this as a learning experince and then you can think what sort of people you'd be better to share with next time, maybe older people or ones less likely to have a house party every night.

paye

They giving you the dirty looks because you snitched on them.
You should let off a couple stink bombs in the kitchen for a few weeks. That should stop him coming round.

meg72

wattc wrote: »

There are rules in the house about having guests, which my flatmate is fully aware of (as he had THREE people living in his double room a few years ago, but made lots of excuses and the agency let him off).

By your logic, every rented house in England should have a few free-loaders who don't pay anything or don't have a rental agreement - why not, what could possibly go wrong?

Thanks anyway.

That's interesting so this other tenant pays for a double room.so his guest wouldn't have cost anymore in rent.


You choose not to answer whether you talked to him about a contribution to any shared bills. so I will take it that you didn't.


I find your comment about my logic flawed and sarcastic, I do not support !!!!!!!!!!s, there is lots that could go wrong. I am getting on in years , like to be kind, which is why I contributed to your post. and truly believe in living gentle, have often found that just a quiet word saves a lot of unnecessary upset.


Looking at previous posts you have made tells me that you are big on rules and regulations but have to say that your reply to me
just makes me, like your so called rude guest put you on ignore.

Confusedandneedhelp

wattc wrote: »

The other tenant had this friend staying in his room, without asking the other tenants or informing the letting agency. I told the letting agency, they were quite decent and moved the "friend" to a new property. But both my flatmate and his friend hate me for spoiling their plan of this guy freeloading in the house! He was here for 5 weeks and didn't pay any rent, he should be grateful! But now, both of them are horrible to me. I shouldn't have to put up with this from someone who doesn't even pay rent here.

Your flat mate can have anyone he wants stay in his room. No wonder they don't like u. Suggest you move on and move out.

Confusedandneedhelp

wattc wrote: »

There are rules in the house about having guests, which my flatmate is fully aware of (as he had THREE people living in his double room a few years ago, but made lots of excuses and the agency let him off).

By your logic, every rented house in England should have a few free-loaders who don't pay anything or don't have a rental agreement - why not, what could possibly go wrong?

Thanks anyway.

Who made these rules? U sound very whiney. Think ud be better in ur own place

Gwhiz

Confusedandneedhelp wrote: »

Who made these rules? U sound very whiney. Think ud be better in ur own place

I'd have to agree with this. (apart from the text speak).

duchy

Some people like rules and like everything to be regulated .....others aren't so bothered.

Ultimately your home is where you should feel relaxed and comfortable. I think it's probably time to move on and find a new flat share with people who share your view that guests shouldn't be staying more than a night or two at a time.

The landlord or LA may have set this rule but just because they make a rule doesn't mean they will want to enforce it every time. Their choice.

Ozzuk

'Very rude', he ignores you? Ignore him back? Or is that too obvious?