Started a job I'm not fit enough to do. How to proceed?

skivenov

totalfailiure wrote: »

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Only depression if that is counted as one. I don't really have any interests or plans any more.

I'm the same age as you, also a depressive (mild-severe, depending on what sort of day I'm having). This thing in our brains pushes us away from the things that we know can help us, and tells us we can't do the things we can.

New store openings are a hellish semi-organised chaos, I've done them for a living for a lot of years. The first time I was in one, I hated it. But if it's not going to be what you're doing when you're into the role properly, count the days, let it pass, and then you can give the job you've applied for, and that they say you can do, a fair sitting.

The body adapts quicker than you'd think, I've gone from doing next to nothing physical on the hours I want to work to long days dealing with heavy kit in the last few weeks. In the first week, I thought I was going to fall over, but we get there. As other posters have said, keep your body fueled and watered, and it'll get there. If nothing else, exercise has been proved to benefit depression

Going from the way you write, you've got a brain, you articulate yourself better than most people, you're far from useless. Keep at it and prove to the depression that you're better than it says you are.

totalfailiure

About the lift, that would be nice even just to the end of the road but I'm not going to ask anyone now because they see me walking home and I see them driving past and no one has stopped to offer one.

Thanks for the other replies.

duchy

People often don't think......
Presumably you do talk to your workmates and they know after a week from casual conversation where you live.......... so to drop into conversation to one of them that you have a long walk (factually not in a pouty way) might be a bit of a prompt without having to ask.

Enterprise_1701C

totalfailiure wrote: »

About the lift, that would be nice even just to the end of the road but I'm not going to ask anyone now because they see me walking home and I see them driving past and no one has stopped to offer one.

Thanks for the other replies.

Do they know how far you walk, or are they afraid you will take offence at the offer? There are many reasons why people do not offer lifts, not many of them include the idea that they don't want to offer a lift!

I_Can_Haz_Job?

Think of it like this, every day that you make it out of bed and out the door is a giant middle finger to depression. It's clich!d but exercise is brilliant for depression, particularly walking. I used to walk to and from work (around a total of 6 miles a day) due to a rubbish bus service and lack of money and it did wonders for me. Even if it's just a rubbish throwaway AM/FM radio with cheap headphones, any kind of music will make the time go quicker and cheer you up as you walk. I'd stick a bunch of funny podcasts ('Adam and Joe' ones from BBC6 are still out there and really funny) on an ancient mp3 player and listen to those - pretty sure people thought I was a freak for giggling to myself but, bothered? If you can afford it, and are not on any kind of anti depressant medication at the moment, get yourself St John's Wort tablets. They do a month's worth for about a fiver in the supermarket. 5htp is good too and pretty much always on special offer at that health food shop with the cartoon bunnies advert. Both are pretty effective antidepressants and a lot gentler than prescribed drugs. Money is always an issue but try to feed yourself properly as good nutrition does wonders for mental health. I completely get your social anxiety and the feeling that everyone is talking about you - it took me a long time and a lot of hospital treatment to sort my head out. Just do what you can and don't stress yourself out. Something my shrink always said to me was that the statistic that 1 in 4 people has a mental health problem is rubbish. It's actually closer to 4 out of 4. People are generally too wrapped up in their own problems to judge others. I hope your week goes okay and keep on keeping on x

Opinion

totalfailiure wrote: »

My work history is pretty poor and I've been unemployed for 9 months.

Being on my feet for 10 hours isn't agreeing with me. I'm knackered after getting home and can't walk. I walk 40 mins to work as well as getting a train and the same back.

could I reach an agreement with the manager to say I'm not suitable and then go back to finding a more suitable job?

I'm terrible at riding bikes. Last one I had, the chain got stuck in the spokes and I had to carry it home. It's also a weird feeling riding one, I feel stupid and like everyone's watching me.

Again, this has got to be a complete wind up.

totalfailiure wrote: »

And can't take it on the train unless it's a fold-up one.

You always have a reason to not do something. What's the problem with this? Get a fold up bike- everyone else on the bus/train/tram/Tube doe the same.

totalfailiure wrote: »

I wouldn't be so bored to create a thread for nothing.

Really? What else are you doing then, apart from thinking up an excuse for anyone on hear that doesn't tell you what you want to hear?

totalfailiure wrote: »

...but I'm not going to ask anyone now...
...I could ask the next time I go in about it... but can imagine their faces strangely wondering why I'm asking...

Again, not really helping yourself. I'm surprised no one is yelling "Glossophobia!!" or similar from the trees.

A 32 year old that can't walk for 8-10 hours a day (a job), can't life boxes, can't ride a bike, which doesn't matter anyway because he can't take a bike on the train, can't ask someone a question, has no interests, no plans, and someone ISN'T bored after not having worked for 9 months.

Amazing.

totalfailiure

I_Can_Haz_Job? Thanks, I'll look up the stuff you recommended. I've actually had a load of the old Adam and Joe XFM podcats for years but never really tried to listen to them. Might get an mp3 player.

Opinion, hope you learned something.

badskindollheart

Why is anyone even entertaining this? It is obviously a wind up.

totalfailiure

What would be the point of said wind-up? Most people have responded in a nice way.

mattcanary

Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

Do they know how far you walk, or are they afraid you will take offence at the offer? There are many reasons why people do not offer lifts, not many of them include the idea that they don't want to offer a lift!

Why would anyone take offence at someone offering a lift to them??!!


Someone may say no, but take offence - why?




Although there could be other reasons.