Wedding Present -How much?

stormbreaker

Oh I am in no way offended by anyone. I am just quite confused now

I asked at work and one of my colleagues said they put in a £100 per couple to a friends wedding? The last wedding in May was a cousins daughter hence I gave more.

I was thinking and have withdrawn.... £500 for my niece.

As for cost otherwise, its local. We will drive, they are providing the bus back. My OH and sons all have full kilt outfits of theri own, so no additional cost.(Expensive outlay at the time but have been well used and are almost paying for themselves given kilt hire costs).

My outfit cost ...:eek:.. well by my normal clothing costs anyway:rotfl:

I was also trying to think back aroud 25yrs ago when there was awave of weddings and I thought the going rate then was around £50. Then factor in inflation?

Oh dear!

heartbreak_star

Can I have your salary please?

Hope you have a lovely time at the wedding

HBS x

Al1x

I have to agree with everyone.. £200 is a lot for a wedding gift. We were given vouchers valuing between £20 to £60.

I can understand you want to spent more on your niece, she is very lucky to have an auntie to spoil her

Marshmallow82

Its extremely generous of you to think of giving £500 but you run the risk of offending the parents (what if they have only given £100?) and making the young couple feel uncomfortable.

It's not really an appropriate amount.

sarah69696pink

Having recently got married myself I think £200 is a VERY generous amount.....the only people at ours to give that (or above) were parents and grandparents.
Aunties/Uncles tended to give £50-£100 per couple.
Really close family/friends also gave £50 a couple - so I think this is sort of seen as the current sort of 'going rate' of a gift.
We tend to give £50-60 when we go.
I think £500 is incredibly incredibly generous. I wouldn't say not to give it (I'm sure they would be extremely grateful) but if that is money you can't really afford or have better use for I'm sure £100 (or even £200 as you mention having given that before) would be really well received too.

stormbreaker

Marshmallow82 wrote: »

Its extremely generous of you to think of giving £500 but you run the risk of offending the parents (what if they have only given £100?) and making the young couple feel uncomfortable.

It's not really an appropriate amount.

Thanks. The last thing I would want to do is offend anyone. I know the brides family circumstances and did not consider what I gave them would be an issue. Perhaps I will have a re-think.

I have not got a huge salary but it is money I can afford. I am very old fashioned in that I dont spend unless I can afford and I am not materialistic in any way, shape or form.

Thanks for all your replies.

burnoutbabe

If i was say 70 and had a good pension, lots of savings and no kids, then I may give £500 to a niece/nephew for a wedding as they would also be the people I'd leave my estate to (assuming no husband) in the future so may as well get money earlier.

So makes sense in that context.

Or if we all lived in Chelsea and/or were bankers.

guardiangirl

I think £500 is very generous - very nice of you indeed.

I agree with lots of others on the amounts - if I'm invited to an evening do I tend to give about £20. For a whole day, hmm depends on who.

Enjoy the wedding!!

Sundaysgirl

I got married recently and gifts ranged from about £25 for a single friend to £500 from aunt and uncle (more from parents). A few(single) friends did spend ~£150 which was really generous. £50-60 seems to be the norm and is what I would usually give as a day guest to a friend. Family is different I guess. Overall we were pretty overwhelmed at the gifts to be honest, especially as most guests had to travel to us and take time off work etc. We were just delighted all our loved ones could attend.

Anyway... I'd say give whatever you're comfortable with and can afford. You seem very generous and she's lucky to have such a considerate aunt, I hope she appreciates you!

theruffles

I got married in April and we asked for money to put towards our honeymoon. My aunts and uncles surprised us with £50-100 each and I don't see much of them at all, so that was very kind of them. Closer aunts and uncles on my husband's side gave up to £300, which I thought was too much but again, incredibly kind.

I tend to give £20-50 depending on how close a friend it is getting married.