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Wedding Present -How much?

I have not had any weddings in years, until last year, we had two evening receptions of work colleagues.

This year we have had, one all day invite and gave the couple £200 and a small gift to open.(we were a couple!).

In August my niece gets married. We are all invited (me,oh and two sons) all day.

We are not rich but not hard up either. I am not so sure the £200 was enough for the first wedding and in a quandrie as to what to give my niece. I might add, I only have one niece and one nephew!

Can any recent brides/grooms give me a wee idea of what they received as presents from Aunts and Uncles?
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  • arbrighton
    arbrighton Posts: 2,011 Forumite
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    Jeez, we've usually done £50 present from list/ money for cousins etc.
  • MissTeach
    MissTeach Posts: 260 Forumite
    £200 is alot!

    We normally put £40/50 in a card if we're doing money instead of a gift.
  • stormbreaker
    stormbreaker Posts: 2,289 Forumite
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    Thanks. I would much rather give a gift. Not because I don't wAnt them knowing what I have spent but think it all too easy to put money in an envelope. However as most couples live together for sometime before getting wed, they seem to ask for money or travel vouchers towards the honeymoon.

    One of the evening things was my ohs colleague and they all put together, I don't know how much.

    The other evening invite was that of one of my colleagues who we have occasionally socialised with as couples. We gave them 80 dollars and I made a present up with various travel pieces.

    I was kind of looking at it in that, it costs a lot for each person to go to the wedding. I think my sister made mention that it was about £80 a head :eek:
    (Daddy's paying), so I should give at least the same back?
  • burnoutbabe
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    Blimey £200 for a non relative? I did that when it was my sister, £50 for a friend/other relative (if all day). £20 for evening.
  • Torry_Quine
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    That's a huge amount and incredibly generous! I would be spending about £30 at most.
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  • lika_86
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    I tend to give about £50 for friends if on my own or £100 if it's a friend of both my boyfriend and I. Although, it can depend on how much I'm paying to be there, I'd be inclined to give more if the wedding was local and so I wasn't also having to pay for a hotel room and train fares etc.
  • £30-£50 here! £200 is a LOT.

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  • wendz86
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    We normally give £50 from both of us if invited to the day. At our wedding the amounts we received varied a lot but most were between £20 and £50.
  • wendz86
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    Actually from my aunties and uncles I got £100 from two lots and £250 from one lot but that was including from my cousins too.
  • Floss
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    ... I was kind of looking at it in that, it costs a lot for each person to go to the wedding. I think my sister made mention that it was about £80 a head :eek:
    (Daddy's paying), so I should give at least the same back?


    Please don't be offended, but is this a tradition within your culture? If not, then please give me your address so I can invite you when my kids get married!


    Personaliy I think £200is too much for friends, the most we got when me & DH married in 2010 was £175 from a group of 7 friends.
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