My Mother & Sister maybe trying to sell my property behind my back..

AdrianC

nige_wales wrote: »

My mother is 80 and although I feel sure that she is being taken advantage of by the person renting, it seems my hands are tied. She absolutely believes that it is the best option and with my sister and brother on her side do I need all that stress and possibly damage my mothers health by making a huge fuss, is it really worth it?

Forgive me, but I can't help reading between the lines here...

If your mother is 80, and the business/property goes to her, it's likely that there'll be an increase in the total inheritance tax payable. So what possible benefit is there? Simple. Your siblings thing that they have a chance of increasing what comes to them. At, of course, your expense.

Nice people, families.

marsman802

Spot. On.

Sigh...

gazter

nige_wales wrote: »

So confusing. I was called everything today just trying to talk to her. I was told that I'm the only one making a fuss called greedy Etc. I tried to explain that in the will it says that the business absolutely is to go to me and all I want to do is to work out what we are to do. Then I was told all that she has done for me bla bla bla and it was clear that if I do contest anything the whole family will turn against me and as booksurr has said 'once someone is dead you cannot say sorry and start again.'

My mother is 80 and although I feel sure that she is being taken advantage of by the person renting, it seems my hands are tied. She absolutely believes that it is the best option and with my sister and brother on her side do I need all that stress and possibly damage my mothers health by making a huge fuss, is it really worth it?

You are being manipulated. Stand up for yourself. All you want to do is make sure your fathers last wishes are honoured.

nige_wales

gazter wrote: »

You are being manipulated. Stand up for yourself. All you want to do is make sure your fathers last wishes are honoured.

So what should I do?

Should I go to the land registry and tell them not to transfer the title to my mother because it should be going to me?

And should I go and see a solicitor and fight against my mother so that the business stays mine?

And how much would it cost me?

I could stand up for myself but the risk of doing so is that my mother will end up hating me and so too would my sister, my brother, my nephews and niece Etc. Letting them do as they wish and disregarding my rights almost seems like the easiest option but where will it all end?

If I fought them I would have to move away and start a new somewhere.

But at the moment I'm really stressed out with all this and it's making me ill again, do I have the strength and will it make me even more ill. I feel really guilty about fighting them but it is my mother and sister who have done this to me so why do I feel as if I'm the guilty one?

I agreed that my mother should sell the business because I thought that she was going to ask for a reasonable price for the place. I shouldn't have agreed to sell it but then again she would have probably gone ahead without listening to me.

I was unaware that the business would be going to me, I was told that there was something in his will that said if he passed away before my mother that it would go to her.

So many lies I feel sick. I think my family have made me ill and actually getting away from them could well be my best idea.

I'm still very confused, I have been lied to, I have been manipulated, I don't trust my mother or sister at all, I just don't know what to do that's best for me.

Also if the business should have gone to me after my father passed away, what about all the rent that my mother has had for nearly 2 years?

My mother said some horrible things to me yesterday, she made me feel so guilty and told me that I am a bad person. I think I have gone into deep depression with all this (since they have been lying to me and trying to sell behind my back) and should see a doctor. I wish I knew for sure what is the best for me to do?

marmitepotato

The best thing for you to do us see a solicitor. None of your family need know about it. You will get good unbiased advice. Why do you keep stalling? Your family think you are trash already and don't give a fig about you. They are all out to line their pockets at your expense.

GO. AND. SEE. A. SOLICITOR!

elsien

Go and see a solicitor. One that specialises in this area . At the moment your head is full of "what if"s. You cannot make any sort of decision till you know where you stand, Getting advice doesn't necessarily mean you have to contest the family - you can still choose not to. Or you might find out that they're in the right, who knows,
But if you do what they want when you're so certain you're being ripped off, then that will also be corrosive to your relationships. You've got too much stuff buzzing round your head which is why it's having such an effect. Just take it one step at a time without running through 26 different scenarios in your head.
find out where you stand. Then decide what to do. You can still choose not to argue, or you can compromise from a position of strength. But at least you'll know where you stand.
and stop chucking extras like 2 years rent into the mix. Let the small stuff go or you'll drive yourself mad.

loubel

Go and see a solicitor. Let them help you figure out the legal position and then you can decide what to do about it.

princeofpounds

Nige, with the best possible will in the world, you are becoming exceptionally tiresome.

The answer has been given to you a million times; if you want to challenge the decisions being made, and there is sufficient value to make it worthwhile, go and get a solicitor who specialises in disputing wills.

None of us can have any real clue what has and what has not been left to you. We can only guess. The draft of the will is very vague, largely because we have no idea what 'the business' legally owns. Specifically, it may or may not own the property.

About the only thing you can do before you go and see the solicitor

a) is download the title register (and perhaps plans) of the properties concerned at the land registry website, so that you can show it the the solicitor to establish the facts of ownership. (cost, about 12 pounds or so in total)

b) get a copy of the will to show to the solicitor.

The executors have a duty to ensure the will is executed properly. They have a lot of power, but they also have a total responsibility to have things done correctly. They can be challenged, with proper legal advice.

Your solicitor will look at whether it makes sense to challenge the distribution of the assets, the conduct of the executors, or both.

Does anyone know if I should I draw the document up myself or is there anything I can download from the net to use?

for crying out loud... even in this situation you need a lawyer to do things properly, so get on and do it.

anotheruser

Please, OP, learn that you don't need to reply quoting everything in different messages. Just copy and paste:

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Posting separate messages over inflates the message count to make the thread seem a lot more popular than it is, so many will think by 3 pages, the issue will have been solved.

marsman802

You are clearly scared of legal costs but you can ask all that at the time.