Anxiety

BigAunty

Raksha wrote: »

Like telling somebody with a cut not to bleed :-(

To be honest, while it's simplistic and doesn't offer a supportive structure around it like counselling, meditation, mindfulness or CBT, for example, that's the exact nub of most of these approaches.

Those with anxiety or similar issues receive training in how not to let their thoughts overwhelm them and get out of habitual, negative thought patterns. I wouldn't call it 'switching thoughts off' though but developing new ways of thinking/responding.

Quizzical_Squirrel

Raksha wrote: »

Like telling somebody with a cut not to bleed :-(

I know.
But it's the only way.

You either yield to it and let it take over your life or you learn to deal with it.
It's hard medicine, I know.

kingslayer

Anxiety is horrible, especially when you get it bad. I find that it also causes hypochondria. I have and, still do suffer similar to what you suffer in terms of overthinking things. It can be hard to get over, especially when you don't feel like you can connect with people. I don't really know what to advise, but I can empathise totally. I still get physical symptoms of anxiety quite often and it's really hard to deal with at times.

jamesml

Try Talking Therapies. You can self refer in a lot of areas, NHS funded with a mix of telephone and face to face sessions I believe.

Will help you find some mechanisms to cope with the anxiety.

wrightman90

See a psychoanalyst - You may need a referral from your GP. Also, maybe join a club like a running club just to get yourself out there? That's what I did, felt much better.

wrightman90

Also, you are better to get a full referral that being put straight on to medication, as the vast majority of people don't actually need anti-anxiety/depressant tablets as most issues are purely situational.

Daisy-May*

I have recently been diagnosed with Depression and I have anxiety issues too, I am currently receiving help in the case of medication and therapy.

Its very easy for people to say just get over it but I think what a lot of people do not understand is most people with anxiety and depression have been dealing with difficult thoughts and anxiety etc for a long time.

It take a lots of guts to admit you have a problem and need help as it means actually dealing with your problems which can be very difficult and emotional.

I have always been a worrier and an over thinker and it is hard to train your brain and to stop you over thinking and worrying about things when you have been doing it for a long time.

One thing I would say that helped me was asking my GP for help. I actually think for myself admitting I have a problem and needed help was my way of actually sorting out the problem, I kept burying my head in the sand until it got to the stage where it affected my everyday life and just couldn't live my life like this.

Admitting you need help does not mean you are a failure it take a lot of guts (and for me tears!!)

I wish you all the best in getting the right help you may need to get over your anxiety.

andydiysaver

Raksha wrote: »

Like telling somebody with a cut not to bleed :-(

that's an interesting thing to say though isn't it, because on one hand someone's pointing out a coping mechanism and on another hand it's being dismissed in a quite defeatist way - anyone who has suffered anxiety/depression doesn't like the people who at best say something like control your thoughts, and at worse, blunt it up further and say something like just get on with it, but there's method in the madness of saying it - afterall - those who suffer anxiety tend to dwell, to dwell amplifies the perception of the problem in relation to the correct size of the problem, and it becomes disproportionate in importance next to it's true place in life -so in a way just getting on with it is a valid thing to say - because you need to skim over thinking it through too much, to not do that is to let the problem turn itself into a monster, where before maybe it was just a mouse


I've suffered this before. so I'm not going to say get on with it, but I can give you two rock solid bits of advice from someone who has been there.


1. when you finish work, nothing comes home with you, no converastions, no analysis - do you get paid enough for work to have the audacity to think it's got a right in your home life? it's a paradox but it doesn't half get you the result you need. To face work well you need to not think about it unless you're there. situations will deal with themselves. thinking them through, nothing but a waste of time, so don't do it. your time off is your own to have fun


2. good cardio exercise. DESTROYS stress and anxiety. medically proven fact.

tabouleh

See if there's an anxiety group that meet in your local area. I have been to one before and it's nice to be with people conversing about anxiety - you can talk about your own experiences/feelings, or just listen to the others there.