Moving on with dignity

Kayalana99

redcard wrote: »

Because it's absolutely beyond any comprehension that he is not perfect?

Riiight.

There's nothing wrong with reflecting on things you did or didn't do.

No one is perfect, but the right person will love you warts and all...always chance of self improvement but if you have been yourself in a relationship and it hasn't worked..you move on. You look forward to the future not the past.

It isn't the fact he couldn't of done anything wrong, it's the fact your post assumes he has because she left him, which isn't fair to judge when you don't know the relationship (just as much as it's not right to assume he hasn't either)

rachiibell

I'm in the same boat as you atm Delree. And it sucks.

I've been watching sad programmes at home and getting all my crying out the way so I can be relatively normal at work. Obvs not healthy long term but it's getting me through the day whilst it's still so fresh.

Be kind to yourself, mope around at home for a bit if you feel like it then put your big boy pants on and go face the world. You will get through this

Delree

Thanks people for the great advice. I am rising above it and moving on.

Just to reassure anyone whose worried I am not suicidal just a little sad but that'll pass. In fact I'm less sad each day and already find I don't devote as much thought to the subject with each passing day.

susieq87

gym really helped me

Filey

Delree wrote: »

Thanks people for the great advice. I am rising above it and moving on.

Just to reassure anyone whose worried I am not suicidal just a little sad but that'll pass. In fact I'm less sad each day and already find I don't devote as much thought to the subject with each passing day.

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Excellent !!! It will pass, as you say. it is all part of life. Things don't always go to plan but you have to move on, and keep on keeping on. There will be other things, other people, other events in your life.

i speak as an old crone with lots of experience of life. Things usually work out for the best in the long run. Believe me!

jwed2000

I would also add, don't go looking for another girl yet, when the time is right you'll find one, use the 'me time' constructively (as per above examples) and learn from the relationship as a good experience whether it feels like that now or not, you never stop learning. And good luck!

Delree

jwed2000 wrote: »

I would also add, don't go looking for another girl yet, when the time is right you'll find one, use the 'me time' constructively (as per above examples) and learn from the relationship as a good experience whether it feels like that now or not, you never stop learning. And good luck!

Oh don't worry about that I'm not in any mood to find someone else. It'll be a good while before I'm ready for this roller coaster again.

In any case if I was to find someone else now it'd only be for my ex's benefit (up yours I've moved on you never meant anything to me etc) and that's not rising above the situation.

CharllieSays

Beer.
Steak.
Perv at girls in the gym without guilt!