Want to separate in 60s

omits

We are both in our sixties and talk often of going our separate ways. Anyone know of a good book on the subject for our age group? I do not want to buy one that deals at length with children as we do not have that situation. Many thanks.

sassyblue

What do you need a book for OP? If you both 'often talk of' it then it sounds like you can do this amicably and possibly support each other even though you are splitting.

Do you both have friends and family that would support you too if needed?

pukkamum

I agree with sassy, not sure what it is you think you will get from a book, if it's legal advice you need then perhaps a solicitor would be your best bet.
If it's more about the emotional side then friends and family are always good places of support or chatting on here helps many people x

krlyr

I know Wikivorce is well-recommended - http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/

meer53

No book needed. Just do it.

Unless there are money matters or property which need sorting, you can do it yourself without spending large amounts on legal advice.

omits

Well, I never assume I am going to think of everything so if someone has done it before and sorted things out then we are less likely to miss something which could impact the cost (money wil be tight). There is no provision for legal costs so we will go for a separation initially.

RAS

Do you own your home or rent?

Do you have any other assets (like pensions).

Are you aware that you can divorce without any legal fees, but cannot get away from paying the court fees (£400 ish).

You may however need a clean break financial settlement but if you can agree the details that does not have to cost a lot either.

lika_86

omits wrote: »

Well, I never assume I am going to think of everything so if someone has done it before and sorted things out then we are less likely to miss something which could impact the cost (money wil be tight). There is no provision for legal costs so we will go for a separation initially.

If you're talking about separating but not divorcing then you will need to think about who you want to leave your money/assets to when you die - you will need to think about making or changing a will if you don't want to leave things to your partner. You may also need to think about the ownership of your home (if you own your home) and whether you are joint tenants or tenants in common and if joint tenants, whether you want to change this.

If these are considerations then you will need to spend on legal fees.

RAS

You can change the tenancy of a property by completing the forms on the Land Registry web-site but a session with a lawyer so you understand what the options are and the implications of any decison would be money well spent.

As would a new will.

Morglin

omits wrote: »

We are both in our sixties and talk often of going our separate ways. Anyone know of a good book on the subject for our age group? I do not want to buy one that deals at length with children as we do not have that situation. Many thanks.

I did it in my fifties, and in a wheelchair - you don't need a book, just sort out the practicalities and away you go.:beer:

Sort out the legalities.

Tell anyone close and involved you have done it, and don't require their involvement, and both wish to remain friends with them all.

Works well if you approach it methodically.

Lin

Sam_Fallow

meer53 wrote: »

No book needed. Just do it.

Then write the book.