Bullying boss

tanya2014

Cad123
You must go for the interview and dont let her get to you.
She cant do anything to bad as others will be there.
Hold yur head up high, you are so much better than her.
I wish you luck

Savvy_Sue

ohreally wrote: »

What the hell are HR playing at, convening an interview panel consisting of an alleged bully. I'd have a discrete word to put their faux pas on the radar.

What's not clear to me is whether there is anything on file about the alleged bullying.

The OP was trying to raise a grievance but there was instead months of discussion about the procedure to use (shouldn't have been, but there you go!) Then the OP was told it wasn't worth doing as the events had happened so long ago.

so I'm just not sure that there's any formal note of the OP's difficulties with this person, in which case there's no reason NOT to put her on the panel, especially as she will continue to manage the OP.

burnleymik

Bullies are always incredibly difficult to face, but take the step. Do you care what she really thinks? Don't avoid eye contact or any direct questions related to the job because you don't want to make the other panelists aware there is an issue from your end with your manager.

If she goes out of her way to make it clear she has a problem with you, then that is her issue and you make it clear that it's her issue and not yours. I am sure the other people on the panel will pick up on it and I think you may have some recourse via unions or HR if she lets this interfere with your career progression.

Bullies are only bullies if they hold that power over you. Stand tall, you know you are good at your job and you know you are ready to take this step, so forget she is there, be confident and strong.

Even if you don't get the job you will feel so much better for having confronted the fear and will hopefully be able to let the past incident be put to bed.

I wish you the very best of luck, you know you can do it!

ERICS_MUM

tanya2014 wrote: »

Cad123
You must go for the interview and dont let her get to you.
She cant do anything to bad as others will be there.
Hold yur head up high, you are so much better than her.
I wish you luck

Exactly. Take control of the situation, not as difficult as you fear once you've worked out a couple of ways to assert yourself at the interview (good ideas already mentioned by other posters).

Good luck !!

teabelly

Do you know her well enough to push her buttons in an interview without anyone realising that is what you're doing? If she were to go off on one in front of important witnesses...

jobbingmusician

Has the bullying actually stopped? Is there a chance that she is trying to change?

If you are VERY brave, you can even bring it up at the interview. If they ask you for an example of a difficult situation you have handled, you could say 'at one point, a manager made very hurtful personal comments about me - to such an extent it felt like bullying. I used the company's procedures, and resolved the problem to the extent that we were able to move beyond personal issues and work together in a professional way to achieve high standards for the company.' This sends a VERY clear message to the manager (and probably to everyone in the room) that you are determined to work together constructively!

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

teabelly wrote: »

Do you know her well enough to push her buttons in an interview without anyone realising that is what you're doing? If she were to go off on one in front of important witnesses...

That'll get you the job.

teabelly

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

That'll get you the job.

That's why you have to be clever about it. Unless you can do it without the other interviewers realising then you don't go down that route.

elsien

There's nothing particularly clever about trying to wind your future boss up during an interview then having to see them on a daily basis for the next x number of years, or however long you are both there for.

ERICS_MUM

don't poke a stick at the tiger in a cage - it will come after you when it's freed.