Do you ever get this happening?

Peter333

Not sure if this is the correct board, but I think it is.

Does anyone ever have this happening.......?

When it's your birthday or anniversary or a child's or spouse's birthday, someone says 'I've got your card, it's at my house,' or 'what do you want for your birthday' or whatever, or 'what does your son want for his birthday?' And you mention something, and neither the gift OR card, ever materialises.

I don't need to have cards and gifts from people, but why do people say they've got something, (a gift OR a card, or a gift AND a card,) and then it never ever materialises?

This has happened a number of times in the past few years with various extended family and a friend or two. My wife actually said to a cousin of hers, 'shall we pop by and get it on the way back from town' once when she said she had got a present and card for me for my birthday. The cousin put her off, saying she wasn't sure what time she'd be in. I don't believe she ever had anything, as nothing ever turned up!

And this other time, my cousin said that she had a card and gift for my son when he was 18, and kept saying it up to 10 days after his birthday. She didn't even bring it to his party. By a couple of weeks after his birthday, she said it again... 'I've got ****'s present and card at my house still.' And I snapped for a second and said 'well he isn't going to get it as long as it's there is he?!' She looked quite annoyed. He never got the card or gift. Probably because there was never one there to begin with. As I said before, I don't care if someone gets something or not, but don't keep promising and then not give it.

I hope I have made sense.

Does anyone else know people who do this?

tea_lover

OH's brother and SIL are like this. Every year we hear that christmas and birthday cards are at their house, in the car, left at work, in the other bag.... I've never expected a card from them and couldn't care less if we never get one, so why bother pretending?!?

Morglin

Nope, never.

Lin

Peter333

tea_lover wrote: »

OH's brother and SIL are like this. Every year we hear that christmas and birthday cards are at their house, in the car, left at work, in the other bag.... I've never expected a card from them and couldn't care less if we never get one, so why bother pretending?!?

Not just me then?! It's so frustrating. Don't say you have got something when you clearly haven't. Don't understand it.

Indie_Kid

Never had this happen to me. I know one year, my aunt and uncle were a bit late with my birthday; but she was heavily pregnant back then. (her daughter was born 9 days after my birthday)

Mayflower10cat

Oh yes indeedy. Mostly from the 'absent sister in law' in San Diego. Have we had even a Christmas card from her in six years since she last visited? Has she remembered her very elderly (& now in a carehome) parents birthdays/anniversaries? No. But we always send her a little something in plenty of time. She keeps saying 'when I come over, I'll bring all these presents I've got for you, they've been mounting up...' ?!

74jax

My boss called me into his office when I was getting married to tell me that he wasn't contributing to the collection, I didn't know there was one and think it was supposed to be a surprise, so I just smiled. He said as I was his PA he and his wife would give usa gift just off them. I thanked him and said that was lovely.

A year later I'm still waiting.

susieq87

i reckon people want to sound thoughtful when they are just lying! they might also feel bad about not actually having a gift and plan on getting one a bit later.

Georgiegirl256

Years ago for my 21st birthday my Uncle phoned my Mam and said he'd forgot to post my card and cheque and that it was still in his briefcase.....I think it's still in there!

Slinky

My birthday and our wedding anniversary are only 6 days apart so often we go on holiday and are away for both. My MIL and SIL know the dates and our holiday dates and mention them in advance, but never manage to send the cards early so we can take them with us to open on the day.

SIL mentioned a couple of weeks ago to her mother that it's her husband's birthday while they are on holiday and reminded her to give her his card so she could take it away with them! I posted ours early so he will have it on the day.

They do the same thing with my OH's birthday. Odd!

missindecisive

Oh yes. This one sounds familiar to me! A fair weather friend,whom I had not seen for several years, rang on my birthday saying she was going to call in during the next half an hour with a card . I explained we were just about to leave to go out as we were going out for our tea.,,and could we re arrange for another day. She ended the conversation abrubtly and I felt that I had upset her by not being available...perhaps I was right. But wouldn't she have come and posted the card through the letterbox ? Wouldn't she have wanted to rearrange a meet up? Needless to say I never saw the card and never heard a thing from her for another few years until the next time she wanted to pick it up again.