Refusing to sell

DigForVictory

+1 for a solicitor & for *several* more EA valuations.

They aren't that invasive & the boosted one may be a "favour for a pal". Faced with 9 valuations consistent, the outlier will show up for what it really is & any judgements will likely use the average of the standard price.

Meanwhile, maintenance still needs sorting - not of the house but for the offspring. (I'm presuming school is kept fully in the loop as they are of exam age? If not, make an appointment to see the Year Head if not the Head pronto?)

baloo

No, I do not pay maintenance currently - but this is soon to change. He was paying the mortgage (only £250 p/m) only instead of maintenance when he was living elsewhere. I was paying everything else. Now that our roles have reversed, so will the financials. I will pay "maintenance" and he will have to pay everything else.

jess1974

Pay out for a surveyors valuation, this will be a lot more accurate than an estate agent x

DigForVictory

If you really want to cover your bases, can afford it & OH won't squeal, a full structural survey from one of the RICS Accredited surveyors will give you a reliable price & advise on whether that should go up, down or be otherwise nudged for any refurbishments needed.

You do get what you pay for.

StuC75

Doesn't matter what the op pays out for as a survey, the other party is not forced to sell up, and frankly who would blame them if the terms of the mortgage are so good - in terms of £250 per month for a house -especially if he's unable to qualify to take the mortgage on in full..

Its long been established the likely barrier that the NRP would face in this situation (regardless of gender, or should that be when the genders are reversed to what is the case here)..

Was in this scenario about 13 years ago - when the ex stuck it out for the higher amount - after previously pulling out of a sale and she moved back in with our son..

Why not say fine , put it up for that amount and see where it goes. The ex would have to deal with the viewings...

If you've currently moved in with a partner, why do you need out soo quickly? would it not be best to think of the needs of the children? with an agreement in place for when they leave home? maybe freezing your equity share at his higher valuation.... as that's more likely the time that you would have success at forcing a sale..

baloo

Thanks all. Lots of advice. I have some thinking to do.

DKLS

Get a solicitor and get a case lined up for the day the youngest child turns 18, I had to take my ex to court to force the sale of the house and her stubbornness cost her a significant sum.

peachyprice

As the divorce has been amicable so far perhaps you can come to an agreement, let him put it on the market at his over-inflated price, if it sells all well and good, if it hasn't sold by the time your youngest is 18/has finished FT education, you get to choose the price you put it up for or you force the sale.

It seems a shame to ruin an amicable divorce by going in heavy handed with solicitors over something you have no control over at this moment in time and will not win.