Sal and Savvybuyer's Sensational Seasonal Summer Sunny 11+ ELITE Thread

Tinyshoes

Right it's bed time for me.

I have my early Monday morning duties to think of. :eek:

Goodnight Elite :A and David. when you get your signal back.

Savvybuyer

Tinyshoes wrote: »

Savvy have a virtual hug from me. :A

Oh don't worry about that - I'm alright!

But... five years! It was a significant time that did build up some 'bond' with the presenter obviously. Even though I never met them - and would surely be in great mourning if I were their family back at the time of the death (or possibly, to some extent, even now).

That said - I may have mentioned it before - I do tend, it seems, to cope quite well - when I lost my mother (several years ago now, ooh nearly a decade already), at least one person a few years afterwards did tell me how they thought I'd coped fairly well with it. It's inevitable as you get older - the attendances at what used to be weddings turn more into funerals. And, on that bright note:rotfl:...

fairclaire

Savvybuyer wrote: »

[1] You taken the very point that I've now just made below (or, maybe, above). Namely, this point:

[2] Hmmm... yeah, and I envisaged that you might reply saying something like this, which you now have.:)

Equaliser in the match! Yes - best onto there - it is 'uplifting'!:)

I meant it in a good way.

DS2 has quite a brutal outlook on people being Ill and/or dying. It's all stats and the dead cert is that people will die! :eek: he honestly feels nothing, it's all part of the cycle for him.

It's hard work :eek: he talks to us about dying which is a subject I'd rather avoid!! but to him it's just life......and death :eek:

great fun! :rotfl:

Savvybuyer

fairclaire wrote: »

Thank you! Let's all have a group hug...

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

Actually, my father you know (or rather you don't:D - but that wasn't the point, stop waffling Savvy!:rotfl:) never liked any of that when my mother (his wife) died. Just wanted to be left alone. Whereas me and some of other close family did. Strange (or maybe it's not, probably it is to be expected rather than being 'strange') that some people want different to others and what works for one... etc. (doesn't work for some others).

purpledonkey

Night all, have a group hug from me

fairclaire

Savvybuyer wrote: »

Thank you! Let's all have a group hug...

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

Actually, my father you know (or rather you don't:D - but that wasn't the point, stop waffling Savvy!:rotfl:) never liked any of that when my mother (his wife) died. Just wanted to be left alone. Whereas me and some of other close family did. Strange (or maybe it's not, probably it is to be expected rather than being 'strange') that some people want different to others and what works for one... etc. (doesn't work for some others).

We are all different and we all deal with that sort of stuff in whatever way gets us through

Losing a parent is very difficult whatever the circumstances :A

Savvybuyer

fairclaire wrote: »

I meant it in a good way.

DS2 has quite a brutal outlook on people being Ill and/or dying. [1] It's all stats and the dead cert is that people will die! :eek: he honestly feels nothing, it's all part of the cycle for him.

It's hard work [2]:eek: he talks to us about dying which is a subject I'd rather avoid!! but to him it's just life......and death :eek:

great fun! :rotfl:

[1] Yeah I can understand that - I am a bit like that myself (and that was in the sense of how I was perceived as coping rather well with my mother's death (eek) I suspect).
[2] Again, maybe I am a bit like that - I always prefer to talk about people dying rather than 'passing away'. (Why cover it in euphemism I feel?... If I felt bad about saying someone has died, I'd feel bad about saying they'd passed away as that means, or relates to, the same thing. Thus removing it from even qualifying as a euphemism.)

Anyway... another goal... for USA!!

fairclaire

It's been a long weekend for me and not without without it's moments :eek: so I'm going to bed.

Am here if you want to chat some more savvy

A song before I go

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3iWJ47W1Ias

zagubov

purpledonkey wrote: »

Night all, have a group hug from me

Good night PD and FC. Hope all is well!:)

Savvybuyer

fairclaire wrote: »

We are all different and we all deal with that sort of stuff in whatever way gets us through

Losing a parent is very difficult whatever the circumstances :A

Or a wife. (Or husband, or partner, or anyone else.)

As regards your substantive post (the 'gist' of the overall post:D:rotfl::cool:) yes I went through all of this and more during the bereavement. (Lol - I'm even trying to establish precisely the limits of where that period (the 'bereavement') began and ended. Am I still bereaved, 10 years later - even if it doesn't really affect me now? Albeit that it was life-changing for me. Certainly, death of my mum changed the course of my entire life thereafter, whether that went worse or better.)

My mum died from terminal illness though - and I did all my bereaving in the dreadful period up to her death. I think some of it may have been the opposite for my father, and I know it hit him much harder than expected (and that happened from her death onwards).

Do I very well know how much it is different for different people though. I went through all this during this time - I think as I experienced one emotion, my father went through another, then when I'd moved onto another one, my father was on the one I'd just experienced. So that period certainly gave me a very great experience of the fact of different people coping very differently. Although also, now, to me, 'interesting' (academically) in a way.