LL invading my privacy

Mojisola

vexed_wasp wrote: »

if it were just a tenant/landlord situation i would def. state my rights/change locks etc...
but there has been closeness in the past - family gatherings, going out on nights out etc.

But it's a one-way street - he's not thinking "I mustn't disturb vexed at home again because we've been at family gatherings, etc".

AdrianC

vexed_wasp wrote: »

For the past 3 or so weeks,my LL has been at my home several times a week “fixing things”. This past week he has been there every day bar one.

My LL is not respecting my privacy e.g. today I returned from the school run to find LL and his friend in my en-suite “checking the toilet fixings”. On my way out of my bedroom I was horrified to see my underwear hanging out of the laundry basket!!! They simply must have seen this, it was in full view.

If you're going to be that "horrified" by somebody seeing your shreddies, then - given the landlord and workmen have been there a dozen or more times in the last few weeks, mebbe you could take a bit more care to make sure they ain't on view...? <shrug>

Look, it's simple. You have four choices.

1. Confront him and point out to him that you have a legal right to quiet enjoyment, which he is currently breaching. Then, if he continues, change the locks.
2. Don't confront him, but just quietly change the locks, as you have every legal right to do. It seems safe to say that a confrontation will not be far behind, though.
3. Give him notice, and move.
4. Continue to live with it.

There really are no other choices on offer. Do something about it or live with it.

vexed_wasp

ok

i know i will not dare say anything to his face
so i am going to send him an email.

i need to tell him about my right to quiet enjoyment?
and i would like notice of him coming to do repairs etc?

should i ask him for a reference first? incase he takes it all the wrong way - which he will - and i will be seen as the family villain.
i need a reference for housing association...

thanks again everyone

vexed_wasp

AdrianC wrote: »

If you're going to be that "horrified" by somebody seeing your shreddies, then - given the landlord and workmen have been there a dozen or more times in the last few weeks, mebbe you could take a bit more care to make sure they ain't on view...? <shrug>
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i didnt do it on purpose

...getting ready in a hurry for school run...didnt manage to get said "shreddies" properly into the basket

and - if i knew someone was coming to walk through my bedroom i would have been up and made sure nothing was amiss

thanks for the other info tho - you make sense :A

Mojisola

Some bedtime reading -

http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/private_renting

http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/private_renting/problems_with_renting/harassment_by_a_landlord

G_M

vexed_wasp wrote: »

i would love to!!!

but with it being a family member i am close to - it would cause problems

i suppose the situation is beyond help really as i dont want to upset anyone

i would hate to think people hated me

This is not the right place to be seeking advice, since it is not a landlord/tenant issue, or indeed a property issue.

It is a relationship issue. We here are not experienced (well, I'm not!) in handling family disputes.

All I can suggest is that communication must be the way forward. That or put up with the way things are.

Sheesha

Guys give the OP a break - he/she clearly has an issue which is affecting her mental health & way of life, she just aksing for advice as she probably doesnt know what to do or where to turn in this scenario. Sarcastic replies really arent welcome on this forum.

I would really look for somewhere else to live now vexedwasp, ASAP. Go to your local housing office & tell them you are going to be homeless in a matter or weeks/months. Even if you have to go to a temporary hostel until they house you, I bet its better than living on eggshells with your LL & his workmen. Start arranging to pack up your things, so it will be easier for you to move. I wouldnt rock the boat with the LL, as you state you will need a reference. So maybe just put everything away you dont want on view, & really really make moving your priority, for the sake of your sanity.

Hope you get it sorted

AdrianC

Sheesha wrote: »

Go to your local housing office & tell them you are going to be homeless in a matter or weeks/months.

It's worth reading up on the regulations surrounding intentional homelessness before taking this advice.
http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/homelessness/help_from_the_council_when_homeless/intentional_homelessness

Sheesha

Obviously get advice before making any decisions, my comment about local housing is from previous experience when I was a minor (i had lived in a hostel/temporary accomodation with my mum after she split with her ex partner & we couldnt live in his house any longer).

Either way if the LL sells the OP will be homeless, unless they find a new private rental.

Mojisola

Sheesha wrote: »

Either way if the LL sells the OP will be homeless, unless they find a new private rental.

But if vexed leaves voluntarily, that's being intentionally homeless.

A tenant has to sit tight until the LL goes to court and gets them forced out to be "homeless".