A chicken is for life not just Christmas Dinner (An 11+ ELITE Thread)

fairclaire · 2 June 2014 at 11:55PM

Im off to bed. I think I have a visit to the vet looming tomorrow

SD, thank you for the company. I have missed it

Savvybuyer · 3 June 2014 at 12:03AM

That's his idea of a 'flake'
But the word 'flake' has lots of meanings - and don't I bloomin' well know every single one of them and go into the matter in far more detail than 'everyone else' (well, not literally 'everyone' else obviously:rotfl:).

SpiralingDown · 3 June 2014 at 12:03AM

fairclaire wrote: »

As I said, not for me. That's not to say I don't appreciate that it works for some people. I just think that most kids need the social side of school. And it's very true what you say, we need our time away from them as much as they need it away from us!!

My new guest has absolutely no sense of humour though :eek: he's very serious and dead pan, bless him. DS2 doesn't always get 'our' humour, but he has his own brand of humour. This lad takes EVERYTHING literally!! So no silly jokes

DS2 got very tickled over a bottle of head & shoulders intense 'for tough flakes' tonight ......he said the term 'tough flakes' made him think of cadburys flakes that had been in the freezer :rotfl:

My DS doesn't understand/get sarcasm and more often than not gets upset or confused over sarcastic comments, this causes no end of bother. He takes everything literally too, I've learnt over the years not to make silly comments about stuff. He's paranoid about people talking about him lately, if I'm talking to someone he'll always come over and the first thing he'll ask is 'are you talking about me again?'
He's starting to develop a sense of humour, he's discovered Mrs Browns Boys and hearing him laugh at that is good because it's sometimes a real proper laugh and not a fake one because he thinks he's supposed to laugh IYKWIM.
We had our first CAMHS appointment last week, DS has decided it might be a good idea to try a few so got our 2nd next week. He said he'll go but doesn't want the one on one sessions. He was more fascinated by the recording equipment they had than what she had to say :rotfl: he also asked why their one way mirror was a bit see through. Goodness only know what next week will bring.

Savvybuyer · 3 June 2014 at 12:04AM

fairclaire wrote: »

Im off to bed. I think I have a visit to the vet looming tomorrow

SD, thank you for the company. I have missed it

Oh no - what happened to the cat?:eek:

Hope it's as little stress as possible:A.

fairclaire · 3 June 2014 at 12:06AM

Savvybuyer wrote: »

Does he take everything literally (wonder if you yourself literally mean everything there?*), even after knowing that sometimes things are not met to be taken literally and therefore making due allowance/correction for that via his own intellect? Or does he not even have the ability/memory to retain that sometimes things aren't meant literally?

Myself - whilst my 'default' position is the literal meaning of words, and I tend to go less to the overall 'context' sometimes, I think that really I 'know' when people are being literal and when not. At least, I mean 'know', to the extent that I suspect it's a guess for the 'normal' person, as no-one but the person who said something really knows what they actually meant.

I think it's the intuition that is missing slightly (or more than slightly, depending on extent of autism etc.) but the intellect can process what, allegedly, comes intuitive to most people.

With me, I was forever reading the dictionary (not from start to finish, but just you know different definitions, at random here, whatever I wanted to read there) so that I knew the meaning of turns of phrase etc. and was never in any doubt that they were not literally meant. So I can deal with figures of speech as I have a knowledge, probably an enhanced knowledge, of those comparable to most people - I have a great vocabulary of words that probably surpasses the average person (as the average person did not read the dictionary loads, and sometimes I forget that actually 80% of the people at my school were in lower streams and, therefore, I'm in my ivory tower of superior knowledge:p:D:rotfl::rotfl: - no, I don't mean it like that!:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: - to most people).

Figures of speech are fine - I know what they (most of them) mean, if encountered before etc. (as is extremely likely as I am very likely to have seen them defined in the dictionary or in phrase books). But individual words, in order to interpret sentences in an academic way, sometimes I pick up individual words and take them, first, literally and then see 97 other possible interpretations (not literally that number of course:D) that, I very much suspect, never occur to many people. I often see literal meaning etc. when :rotfl:analysing the claims of organisations, in particular grocery chains that advertise certain things in relation to their products and price promise schemes. "Morries is cheaper". Cheaper than what?:p What does the word "cheaper" mean:think:think? (Rhetorical!)

* [Edit: I now note you have capitalised it - presumably you did mean it literally as you meant to stress it in such a sense?:think:rotfl: - lol, there's me now trying to figure out whether you meant that as literal or not, having gone to my first 'default' position that you did and then thinking and thinking it far more than many other people would.]

Oh savvy on another night I'd give you a more comprehensive answer

(try a weekend :rotfl:)

Yes he does take everything literally, more so than DS2. He's properly VERY serious. I don't want to go into his situation too much, but he has been spending far too much time alone

. I get this with DS2 as well, likes his own company a lot but I encourage at least a little 'social time'......I'm not pedantic about it but in life, it's normal to expect you might need to learn to interact with people on some level.

I really do have to get to bed......we can talk about this some other time though

you know where I am

SpiralingDown · 3 June 2014 at 12:10AM

fairclaire wrote: »

Im off to bed. I think I have a visit to the vet looming tomorrow

SD, thank you for the company. I have missed it

Goodnight FC. I hope the vet visit goes better than you think, I'll be thinking about you x

Time for me to get some sleep, goodnight everyone.

fairclaire · 3 June 2014 at 12:11AM

SpiralingDown wrote: »

My DS doesn't understand/get sarcasm and more often than not gets upset or confused over sarcastic comments, this causes no end of bother. He takes everything literally too, I've learnt over the years not to make silly comments about stuff. He's paranoid about people talking about him lately, if I'm talking to someone he'll always come over and the first thing he'll ask is 'are you talking about me again?'
He's starting to develop a sense of humour, he's discovered Mrs Browns Boys and hearing him laugh at that is good because it's sometimes a real proper laugh and not a fake one because he thinks he's supposed to laugh IYKWIM.
We had our first CAMHS appointment last week, DS has decided it might be a good idea to try a few so got our 2nd next week. He said he'll go but doesn't want the one on one sessions. He was more fascinated by the recording equipment they had than what she had to say :rotfl: he also asked why their one way mirror was a bit see through. Goodness only know what next week will bring.

Im glad CAMHS has gone well for you SD. I can't rate them enough. My DS used to walk in, look at the clock and demand to know how long he would be there

He's a bright lad!

Right I really am going!!! you bad influence of a woman :eek:

:rotfl:

Goodnight

Savvybuyer · 3 June 2014 at 12:11AM

SpiralingDown wrote: »

My DS doesn't understand/get sarcasm and more often than not gets upset or confused over sarcastic comments, this causes no end of bother. He takes everything literally too, I've learnt over the years not to make silly comments about stuff. He's paranoid about people talking about him lately, if I'm talking to someone he'll always come over and the first thing he'll ask is 'are you talking about me again?'
He's starting to develop a sense of humour, he's discovered Mrs Browns Boys and hearing him laugh at that is good because it's sometimes a real proper laugh and not a fake one because he thinks he's supposed to laugh IYKWIM.
We had our first CAMHS appointment last week, DS has decided it might be a good idea to try a few so got our 2nd next week. He said he'll go but doesn't want the one on one sessions. He was more fascinated by the recording equipment they had than what she had to say :rotfl: he also asked why their one way mirror was a bit see through. Goodness only know what next week will bring.

Right, so it is of a more severe nature.
"We" can get (be vulnerable to getting) the 'mick' taken out of us sometimes, as we don't always realise others are taking fun out of us - but then it's also, we/me at least, sometimes someone does (or doesn't) do something and - this is real-life not tv. programme sense - I'm then thinking in depth trying to work out what their intention really was or might have been. It's not always obvious - then again I suppose it's not always obvious even to most people. It's just 'we' probably take more time to read it or more time to consider it in depth, whereas, sometimes, others do seem to know. That's body language how they get that isn't it? It's sometimes difficult for most people (and most people don't, or don't need to, consider it very deeply) but I sometimes need to use my intellect far more to try to work it out - usually successfully I think or, in any event, it doesn't really matter if someone is taking the mick and making fun out of you - as you just move to another situation, whatever 'fun' they might have or might not have had why should other people's thoughts ever affect me?!? - and sometimes I do struggle to work it out. Then again, that's because most people aren't clear. (:p:p:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:)

It's this irrationality and lack of logic that defines the vast majority of people - and once that fact is understood...

Savvybuyer · 3 June 2014 at 12:21AM

fairclaire wrote: »

Nice to see you back to your normal self Savvy :A

Or not:rotfl:.

Perhaps I'm getting more obsessed - more into my obsession, visiting M more and more, collecting prices more, it's the Asperger's. That's a problem if it detracts from other tasks in life. Such as keeping the house tidy and in ship-shop shape. Remember each time I'm on here, maybe I ought to be doing something else. It's my distraction and comforting downtime though - and it avoids stress and keeps me very happy. It has a reason of its own. Right - got to go and empty the dishwasher now and see you later!:):)

If anyone replies to this, I may feel obliged to reply and itself be following an obsession in obsessive train of replying. Most people would be down the pub, but I'm here!

It's a balancing act - should be spending some time on here and some elsewhere. So if I ever start being here a little bit less, it is for a good reason folks! That's not to say I shouldn't be here!

Best wishes one and all - and doubtless see you later! Let's do RL (we all have to!:rotfl::rotfl::D:(:)).

Bye now - back later!:wave:

Lol - evidence of my own literalism there, in my italicising of the word 'if'. (There is an 'Asperger'-style to the way in which I write, and talk in RL.)