Pre-nuptial

mojo_jojo

Pre-nups are a funny thing. It depends on how you look at life. Glass half empty or glass half full. By asking him to sign a pre-nup you're kinda saying you love him but don't trust him enough. He might think, hang on, does she think it will go wrong already or is preparing herself in case it will go wrong?

Yes I know some people will say it's a "just in case" scenario. Relationships do break down, but they are all about trust and faith. My personal opinion is that if you need a pre-nup then you don't have 100% trust or commitment in the relationship for it to work. But if it does go wrong, then that pre-nup will come in handy.

I'm getting married soon and the question of a pre-nup came up, I said no. I trust my future wife and she should trust me. If she doesn't trust me enough the marriage has failed already and it's not worth making the commitment.

ebeneezer_2

I agree with covering yourself. OK, you may very well live happily ever after - what have you lost by putting in place a safety net? If your partner does not respect your need to protect yourself (and it works both ways), ask yourself, and them, why not? I've seen too many examples to take the risk. What happens if your partner suffers a complete mental breakdown and comes out the other side with a totally different personality? Change happens. Look after yourself.

Indout96

I don't want to end up with him walking away with my hard earned money

To be honest after a statement like that I agree with your parents when they say live together first and see how it goes, you seem not to have much faith in it lasting. Things also change for the better as well as for worse.
I take it that the vows have now changed from " with all my worldly goods I thee endow" to "its mine keep your %^$£*&$ hands off"

LuciferTDark

I heard pre-nuptials mentioned somewhere this morning, the result was that in this country they're not worth the paper they're printed on as the courts generally ignore them.

rjm2k1

ejones999 wrote: »

If you move in together as in living together (as opposed to lodger and landlady) then as a common law marriage he will accrue benefits from you anyway.(And you from him)
As you say Pre nuptials are not legal in UK so think carefully and then dump him!

Pre nuptials are perfectly legal in the UK, though the extent to which they may be taken into account is unclear. Common law marriage is not a recognised legal term in the UK however.