Help with 2yr old please!!

Curious_George_2

I dont know if this is any help to any of you....but,
my friend had a monster of a little boy
he would play up no end for her, but was an angel for everyone else and it was really breaking her...
but the one thing i consistently noticed was he would whinge for something and she would say no,
he wouldnt accept this and would go on and on and ON
half an hour would go by and he still hadnt stopped so more often than not she would give it to him just so he would shut up
and she could have 5 mins peace,
i know we have all done it from time to time, but all you have taught the child is to keep on being naughty, screaming and crying, throwing tantrums because mummy WILL give in eventually,
if this sounds familiar then i think one of the hardest but most important things you can do is to break this habit,
obviously the first few times you should not expect any let up for quite a while, but distraction, ignoring and just shutting yourself away for a few moments can all help
good luck!

snowmaid

When he throws a tantrum, stamping his feet etc, give him a well placed wollop on his bottom with a slightly cupped hand! The noise, more than pain, will stop him in his tracks and he will look at you with total shock! No playing about, show him immediately it is not acceptable.

Trying to negotiate with a 2 year old is near impossible! He will think twice the next time, as you advance towards him with a determined look on your face! :rotfl:

I await the onslaught from horrified posters!! :rotfl: :rolleyes:

Adrasteia01

Snowmaid. I agree with you.
I think so many kids are so difficult because their parents only ever tell them what to do, and they ignore that. There aren't really any consequences for their actions, so they do what they want.

Just the threat of it is enough to make many kids reign in their behaviour. I am not saying beat your kids, I am saying it is not such a bad thing to occasionally smack them to keep them in line.

I will say now that I don't have kids, but that's the way my parents raised me (and they used to have the cane at school -which I never got). I would see it as an option if kids are out of control.

I have heard of parents getting in trouble for doing that though (personally I think that's ridiculous), but then there are times I have seen women at the supermarket hitting their children very hard (which I strongly disagree with).

I was raised in Australia and people tend to worry less about what other people think over there.

Justie

I don't see how hitting a toddler who already hits will do anything other than reinforce that hitting is ok...

as an adult I wouldn't stand for someone hitting me so quite why it's ok to do it to a child I don't know. There are plenty of ways of achieving the same thing without laying a hand on a child. If you want to use a sound aversion then slap a book on a table or something.

to the OP I would highly recommend the Baby Whisperer problem solver book. You can also email her for advice via her website http://www.babywhisperer.com/babywhisperer.html

On a practical level I'd do as has been suggested and put a high bolt on doors or lock with the key and hang the key out of reach and I'd get rid of the stair gates as an open one is more dangerous and if can open them then they're no use anyway. You can get covers for the car seat harness release button which may slow him down at least. I hope the fish oil works out for you.

it sounds as though you need a break as much as anything as he's very demanding - is there a creche somewhere you can take him where you don't have to be in charge and can have a breather? I'm not a child behaviourist so I'll leave off giving specific advice but good luck and I hope it all gets better for you children are tiring enough at the best of times.