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thats all I have to say about that
sams247
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It is a crazy thing to do - to post about a break up on a forum, but this forum has been a home and a refuge and a place to go to for many years for me, I have been bankrupt here, so hey why not have a good moan here too. Sorry Guys.
I was married for 20 years. Then divorced.
I have been in a relationship for many years, and partnered for 7. Last night they told me they want to leave me, and have done for some time. Dont you just love the line 'I still love you but..............'
Bit sad. Have to confess. They were a wreck when we met, they are now confident and, apparently, have 'outgrown the need for me'.
I have had better days.
And, thats all I can think to say today.:(
I was married for 20 years. Then divorced.
I have been in a relationship for many years, and partnered for 7. Last night they told me they want to leave me, and have done for some time. Dont you just love the line 'I still love you but..............'
Bit sad. Have to confess. They were a wreck when we met, they are now confident and, apparently, have 'outgrown the need for me'.
I have had better days.
And, thats all I can think to say today.:(
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I wish I knew what to say.
*hugs*
HBS x"I believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another."
"It's easy to know what you're against, quite another to know what you're for."
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Stay away from lame ducks, is my advice.
Find someone who is not needy.
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You can tell a lot about a woman by her hands..........for instance, if they are placed around your throat, she's probably slightly upset.
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((((((Hugs)))))
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Well that person is going to be lonely when they get old aren't they?
Sounds like they might have done you a favour. Find someone who likes you for you not for what you can do for them.
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What an absolute kick in the teeth and horrid thing for someone to say! Might be hard to see it now but you are well rid. Be aware of them bouncing back when they start falling apart again.........Make a life for yourself now and do what you want to do! Hugs!“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent".0
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Fixer-uppers rarely appreciate the people who put them together. Well, until they're left to cope with those who are less caring.
And, no matter how much they have cared, it's not been an equal relationship. It won't feel like it now, but in time, you will come to realise that equal support and care is a far healthier way, as you are as entitled to feel looked after as the other person.
I'm sorry you are in this position. But, believe me, not having to constantly be the strong, capable, confident one is healthier for you in the long run.I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.Yup you are officially Rock n Roll
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They were a wreck when we met, they are now confident and, apparently, have 'outgrown the need for me'.
My advice would be to keep in mind that someone who truly respected you could not say something so awful. Decent people finish relationships as kindly as possible, and don't resort to being cruel. Your ex obviously has issues, and you are much better off without having to deal with them.
Allow yourself to grieve right now, because there's no avoiding it. Don't let anyone tell you that you have to "get over it" in a set amount of time. Everyone has their own schedule. Most of all, continue coming to this forum and reading the threads. You'll see how many people are in similar positions, and can learn how others are dealing with their heartache. You'll get some good ideas.
Hang in there OP, you will pull through this awful time, I promise.The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.0
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