Abuse and threat after football match

phingers

Hi. I think this comes under 'family' and I'm just after advice.
After a kids football match (under 12), a parent came and opened my car door telling me to "Get out - I want a word with you." My wife and son had just got into the car and we were ready to go home so I declined his offer which was aggressive in the extreme. He then leaned in close and said that if I ever spoke to his son on a football pitch again he would f***ing bury me. This was overheard by both my wife and son. He was wrongly under the impression that I had said something negative to his son in a previous game which he had not attended but which I absolutely had not and I had a witness to this fact.
I reported the matter to the club and they spoke with the man and he denied everything. The club then emailed their findings and basically I am the bad guy for saying anything at all during a kids football match that could be misconstrued!!!
I did speak to the police about this and have given them his name and full details of the incident as he was so insanely aggressive with absolutely no knowledge of the facts that I do not doubt that this will happen again to another parent, but I cannot see any point in the police carrying out an investigation as he will give his version of events and I will give them mine - supported by witnesses - but where does that leave us?
Any thoughts appreciated as I am left with a huge feeling of injustice and once again a truly nasty individual has got away with using foul and abusive language and behaviour not just towards me but in front of my wife and 11 year old son. TY.

wiogs

What do you wish to happen?

Do you want the club to say you were right?
Do you want this person charged by the police?
Do you want an apology from him?

Or something else entirely?

stebiz

phingers wrote: »

Hi. I think this comes under 'family' and I'm just after advice.
After a kids football match (under 12), a parent came and opened my car door telling me to "Get out - I want a word with you." My wife and son had just got into the car and we were ready to go home so I declined his offer which was aggressive in the extreme. He then leaned in close and said that if I ever spoke to his son on a football pitch again he would f***ing bury me. This was overheard by both my wife and son. He was wrongly under the impression that I had said something negative to his son in a previous game which he had not attended but which I absolutely had not and I had a witness to this fact.
I reported the matter to the club and they spoke with the man and he denied everything. The club then emailed their findings and basically I am the bad guy for saying anything at all during a kids football match that could be misconstrued!!!
I did speak to the police about this and have given them his name and full details of the incident as he was so insanely aggressive with absolutely no knowledge of the facts that I do not doubt that this will happen again to another parent, but I cannot see any point in the police carrying out an investigation as he will give his version of events and I will give them mine - supported by witnesses - but where does that leave us?
Any thoughts appreciated as I am left with a huge feeling of injustice and once again a truly nasty individual has got away with using foul and abusive language and behaviour not just towards me but in front of my wife and 11 year old son. TY.

The time to deal with it was at the time. I'd have got out out and asked him what his problem was.

Had a similar issue before Christmas. Accident in the car. Guy got out asking what the f... I was playing at. Ranting and raving. It was in front of my wife. It was only when I went after him asking what the f... he'd just said that he apologized and was like a little sheep.

FBaby

So you didn't do anything and neither did he both with witnesses who are family/friends? It's been investigated and the truth couldn't be confirmed. What else can possibly be done?

marisco_2

What a horrible situation to have been in. That such inappropriate aggression was witnessed by your own young child makes it even worse. I should think Karma will catch up with that moron sometime soon. Eventually he will meet his match or worse and it will be him that ends up under someone's patio

Tigsteroonie

Where does it leave you? It leaves you with a record at the local Police station that this has happened once, so that if it happens again (to you or to someone else) then there is evidence of a chain of events.

At least, that's why we decided to report an abusive neighbour to the Police even though we knew it would be our word against his (which it was, so no further action taken). Fortunately it didn't happen again, obviously this was sufficient to scare off the bully.