Who should go in the wedding car?

Justengaged

Obviously the bride, and person giving her away, and I know sometimes the bridesmaids if there's room.


My mum will want to come in the car, but she's just going to get on my nerves and wind me up the whole journey (its a good 30 mins) and I don't want her in it, I'd prefer her in a separate car (I know that's horrible, we have a weird relationship - it is, what it is).


Is she even meant to come in the car, or can I use a "bad luck" excuse perhaps? No idea on protocol tbh....maybe I should get a tiny car!!

Bennifred

I thought everyone except the bride and whoever is giving her away was supposed to be waiting at the church - so just the bride and her father (and driver, obviously!) in the actual wedding car. Definitely not the MOB

thorsoak

Send mother of the bride in the car with the bridesmaids! That's the traditional way of doing it - they're then at the venue ready for the bride and father of the bride!

tanith

Yep I agree with the others MOB goes with the bridesmaids NOT in the bridal car.

Justengaged

Thank goodness


Now just need to drill that into her, she'll sulk I know it

Torry_Quine

Mother of the bride doesn't go in the bridal car. It's usually the bride and her father (or whoever is giving her away) and bridesmaid can often come as well.

Si_Clist

The reason that the MOB and the BMs go separately is that they need to arrive at the ceremony venue before the star of the show. In particular, MOB needs to be in her cage oops sorry seated in good time to be able to stand up when you walk in.

If she's likely to be a real PITA, brief either a reliable usher or some relative you can trust to drag her in and keep her out your way once she gets there. That's the usual way of dealing with the situation

Flugelhorn

i think the traditional
"father and daughter in the car MOB at the church / venue (and already seated so she can't fuss over you "
developed for a reason
Reckon FOB are calmer at that moment (and in my case, enjoyed theride in a fancy car) and MOB need to be constrained in a pew or hemmed in seat to stop them fussing.

PS obviously depends on family dynamics - I was close to my Dad, we had the same mindset - obviously different if you don't get on for any reason

VintageBelle

Could you say that the reason the MOB and bridesmaids need to be there first is to make sure everything is sorted, organised and ready for your arrival? That way you could make her feel more important.

Spendless

I definitely went in the wedding car as my sisters bridesmaid along with the other bridesmaids. I distinctly remember it as it was an open topped Rolls and I spent the journey trying to keep my fresh flower bouquet low so it didn't get battered in the wind and worrying about my hair flying about. I can't remember if my Mum was with us too. I think my sister must have either had a second car, or the Rolls returned for for my sister and Dad after dropping us all off at the Church.

Sazzarella

My mum will already be at the venue. Me and my 2 BM's are staying at a hotel the night before so one of their hubbys is giving us the short lift from hotel to venue. No expensive car needed as ceremony and reception are all in the same venue.