Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay my friend's speeding fine?

gaving7095

No - your friend was speeding, not you. The driver must take responsibility for their driving.
Sorry for the bleak outlook but would you go to prison on his behalf if he'd hit & killed somebody whilst speeding?

Cookie1986

The driver broker the law so the driver should pay the fine

meknowalot-51

Your friend chose to increase the speed above the limit for that area so they should pay the fine,all of it.If you still feel partly responsible then buy them a drink next time you see your friend out.
What if your friend had tragically hit a pedestrian causing fatal injuries,then was found to be over the alcohol limit?You were not in control of the car,stop feeling guilty and hope your friend has learned by THEIR mistake.

tallgirld

Urmmmmm....If you had your foot on the accelerator YES you should pay the fine.

On the other hand if your friend was in full control of the car and you had not encouraged him to drive like a nutter then NO you should not pay!

Ebenezer_Screwj

Of course you shouldn't pay his fine, he was consciously breaking the law and must face the consequences! It is a dangerous and irresponsible practice to break speed limits.

oldnewhand

I agree with all the posters saying that unless you were putting pressure on your friend you owe nothing. Dependent upon how much over the limit the driver was going you might offer some sympathy, on the other hand how safe do you feel driving with someone that exceeds the speed limit and fails to notice a speed camera? Perhaps it's the driver who should be offering apologies?!!

gloriouslyhappy

bluecanoe wrote: »

I had a "friend" in the same street as me and transported her and 3 kids all over the place. My son accidentally broke a £5 toy in her house. I offered to replace it and the offer was accepted. Guess what- the free lifts dried up instantly!

What am I missing here - I don't quite understand why you'd offer a replacement if you didn't mean for the offer to be accepted? Were you upset because your friend accepted lifts for herself and her children? In that case, why offer the lifts in the first place?

sugarbaby125

Hypothetically this is not a moral dilemma, so nothing to say about a made up dilemma

choccy14

I have been in this position where I was the driver helping out a neighbour. It was not an obvious yellow speeding camera, rather a camera in the back of a van. As I had picked up his friend from the airport for him there was a lot of discussion and obviously I didn't concentrate as well as I should have.
I was absolutely gutted to get the fine a few days later when I had gone out of my way to help someone. It felt like a kick in the teeth, but obviously I was to blame.
My neighbour did offer to pay but partly because he is elderly and partly because it was my fault, I declined. For the sake of friendship I would offer to pay half. Haven't we all made silly mistakes, 32 in a 30mph zone? If it was the other way round, how would you feel?

bluecanoe

Sugarhappy- I was responsible for my son's actions in the same way the driver is responsible for theirs. I was upset because she accepted the offer despite the fact I was saving her £10-15 weekly in fares. Until that point I was quite happy to offer the lifts and then realised it was a one way street and didn't anymore. I was cash strapped and probably sleep deprived with my own children at the time and thought there would be some give and take. I am obviously in a minority on this one, but to me its a not court of law, but how you treat your friends. There is a moral dilemma here, I would be happy to help out without condoning their actions and others feel that it would be wrong to do so.