Rules on Council Grants

Richie-from-the-Boro

margaretclare wrote: »

Richie, the difficulty would be one person with only one leg to stand on.

- and another odd and unusual series of exceptions we can invent
- one leg in my view is even more a case for small space reachable physical support - don't you think ?
- my point was most, as in most cases, large / big / spacious would be a dis-benefit

Torry_Quine

margaretclare wrote: »

There must surely be more dignified ways of arranging equipment/facilities, so that she can do this highly-intimate routine for herself. It's just too embarrassing and humiliating for words.

No matter how much DH and I love each other, I'd prefer him not to wash my lower half, and my hair. I assume you don't mean both at the same time?

I'm younger than you and when unwell my husband very happily will wash me and it's not humiliating but a sign of his love and care for me. Of course it's your choice but for many there is no choice and if their spouse doesn't do it then you stay unwashed. :eek:

Morglin

I found it, when younger, a bit of an issue, for some intimate care to be undertaken by my husband.

I found that it sort of changed the dynamics of husband/wife to that of patient and carer, and it did make me uncomfortable, at times.

I suppose it's just another thing someone suddenly becoming disabled has to get on board with.

Now, both being disabled, and both being older, it no longer seems to be an issue.

But, in my view, it is far better if a disabled person can be as independent of others, as possible, and that's why I always welcome workable adaptations and equipment that actually works.

Lin

margaretclare

I agree with Morglin above.

Being younger/older has IMHO got nowt to do with it. I just hope we never get to that point. I'd happily spend money on aids/adaptations/rebuilding, you name it, just so that we can both remain as independent as possible for as long as possible.

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margaretclare wrote: »

I agree with Morglin above.

Being younger/older has IMHO got nowt to do with it. I just hope we never get to that point. I'd happily spend money on aids/adaptations/rebuilding, you name it, just so that we can both remain as independent as possible for as long as possible.

I am facing this now ..it suddenly creeps on you we want to stay independent but what is the alternative ?you have to help
Aids will not cover everything

Morglin

No, they won't, so it's really a case of trying to hold the tide back as far as possible, for as long as possible.

Aids can be a tremendous help, but sometimes it needs another human to assist.

Kin