seperation arrangements!

loopyloouk

Hi all,

wondered if you could help, i am asking for my colleague at work (we share an office so you can imagine we talk most the day!)

she is currently having problems with her husband, she has been married for 9 years, house brought together 10 years ago, 2 children 7 and 4 and thinks this is finally the end of the road. Its a shame really as you can tell they both love each other but just aren't suited for each other any more.

What happens with the house? we have looked on wikivorce but is very unclear?

thanks for your help.

Loopy

19lottie82

Has it been decided who the children will live with?

The general arrangement would be, unless both parties agree to sell, the resident parent would stay in the house with the children, until they turn 18, or leave FT education.

That is of course, as long as the RP can afford to run the house alone.

BUT your friend really needs to make an appointment with a solicitor ASAP to get these arrangements ironed out.

pinkshoes

Counselling would be a good start if they haven't already tried that.

loopyloouk

thanks for the replies,

they did look at counselling but it is so expensive per session. Then again i suppose its cheaper than a divorce :rotfl:

I just feel for their two children as they are both young and if i am being honest quite sensitive (i.e very shy etc)

loopy

19lottie82

loopyloouk wrote: »

I just feel for their two children as they are both young and if i am being honest quite sensitive (i.e very shy etc)

it's sad, but they will get through it, millions of kids do.

better for their parents to be happy apart than miserable together.

pinkshoes

"Aren't suited to each other any more" usually means they haven't been putting enough effort into their relationship.

Perhaps they could make a big effort to revive their relationship e.g. going on dates, time away from the kids etc...


All relationships require hard work to survive, particularly when you have kids.

Too many people give up too easily.

Delree

pinkshoes wrote: »

"Aren't suited to each other any more" usually means they haven't been putting enough effort into their relationship.

Perhaps they could make a big effort to revive their relationship e.g. going on dates, time away from the kids etc...


All relationships require hard work to survive, particularly when you have kids.

Too many people give up too easily.

Agreed.

When you have kids you have more than your own feelings to consider. So you "don't work anymore" then make it work.

The only losers are the kids (who never asked to be born) emotionally and financially as one of the parents (no doubt the Dad) will have to move out pay his own living expenses taking money away from the family.

msb5262

Agree with post 4 - if they think counselling is expensive, wait till they get started on a divorce...it really would be worth trying counselling.