Is there any way to stop?

MrRee_2

By stop, I mean stop saving, stop looking for deals, stop making money, stop the personal economic crusade?

I was penniless 25 years ago, I had to look after every single penny earned ..... after all that time I now find myself in a very fortunate position, financially.

At some point in time there was a cross over between me being hard up to me being more prosperous ...... at that time I could have loosened the purse strings, but didn't - or couldn't!

I still find myself standing in Poundland holding something for 15 minutes while I debate whether I should buy it ..... which, considering I could have many pounds drop from my pockets without me even noticing, is pathetic!

Am I doomed? Will I remain forever cautious, forever tight, forever scrimping?

Has anyone actually broken the cycle and stopped in enough time to spend and live life like money is no object - because, of course, at my time of life it isn't anymore.

Swafe

Once a tight !!!!, always a tight !!!!

Yorkie1

Assuming this is a serious question, something for you to ponder on internally.

What do you think will happen if you do decide to splash out on something non-essential or non-cheap? You could look into CBT for help identifying and challenging the thought processes which once kept you safe but now hold you back.

MrRee_2

I guess, when you have been destitute it's very hard to risk slipping back to being homeless and penniless again?

I cannot be alone in this quandary - not on a site like this.

thescouselander

Interestingly my inlaws are exactly the same. The were hard up for a long time but then eventually came into some money. Now they must easily be millionaires on paper but they won't spend any of it - not event to keep their house at a reasonable temperature.

I guess when they kick the bucket the money will be distributed around the family but a good proportion will go straight into the hands of the government as tax. My advice to them is to just spend it but they won't have any of it.

shortchanged_2

I don't know really Ree. But someone who treats themselves to an Aston Martin can't be that much of a tight ar*e.
You'll be just fine.

ruggedtoast

The Lament of the Boomer.

sleepymans

Hmmm this reminds me of an aged relative completely dependant on benefits (pension, pension credit, housing benefit, no council tax to pay, no tv licence to buy, free bus pass) has maxed the permitted savings and so has cash hidden in biscuit tins all over the house........and then bemoans the fact that a lamb chop she'd like for tea is far too expensive at £2.50!


When the inevitable happens, all the cash will probably have to be given back to repay the pension credit....
Drives me nuts!

chewmylegoff

I don't know about the opening question but it certainly is possible to stop wasting your time writing made up drivel on the internet.

MrRee_2

chewmylegoff wrote: »

I don't know about the opening question but it certainly is possible to stop wasting your time writing made up drivel on the internet.

And everyone thanks you for your pointless contributions :j

MrRee_2

shortchanged wrote: »

I don't know really Ree. But someone who treats themselves to an Aston Martin can't be that much of a tight ar*e.
You'll be just fine.

Didn't say I'd bought a new one ........