Thinking of hypnosis to cure heartbreak

susieq87

I received some heartbreaking news about my SO on tuesday and have been unable to cope since. i seem to break down into tears at every chance and even though i'm at work i cant stop thinking about it and have to stop myself from crying. i cannot talk about it with anyone because talking about it is literally making my heart hurt. i have spoke to my mum and a really close friend and they have been amazingly supportive!

Unfortunately this is not the first heart break i have suffered at the hands of this man or in life and i appreciate the good people of MSE have a lot of life experience but for now that is not what i'm looking for. i know some people have and use hypnosis to help them stop smoking so i wondering if any one has good information about using this technique to forget someone or at least stop feeling this crap.

I live by myself and walking into my flat is the worst thing ever because i do not have any distractions. last night i pulled out the bottle of vodka but only had 3 glasses, i am worried that i might spiral out of control in order to suppress these feelings because i do NOT want to deal with them or feel them. i just want them to go away. I do not want to take pills or drugs because i know the long term side effects and i dont think he's worth it thats why i would much rather go through the healthier way.

i'm typing this at work choking up and i have to sit here and smile at everyone as if everything is ok. i dont want to go to the toilet and cry because when i come back my eyes will be blood shot, face puffy and i dont want people knowing my business.

thanks guys!

SandC

I've not tried it but I do wonder if that sort of treatment would only work after a certain time has passed and you are still left with residual feelings.... be they anger, grief, obsession with the person, physical symptoms/problems, being unable to forgive etc.

Perhaps you should find a local hypnotist and give them a ring and ask them for their advice?

heartbreak_star

It's only a couple of days since then - give yourself a chance.

Make sure you're getting plenty of good food, fresh air and exercise.

And if you are really having issues, see your GP instead of a quack.

HBS x

tea_lover

Unfortunately you can't bypass feelings, they'll come and get you eventually if you don't work through things. I stuffed grief down inside me for ages but it only works for so long. Some things you have to go through, not around.

BitterAndTwisted

What would I do? Book a couple of days off work and go home to have a ruddy good cry.

Hypnotherapy can help us make sense of things sometimes but there are some things in life you just have to go through without any aids in order to process the emotions properly and healthily. Once you start getting angry you know you're going through the natural process of grief.

All the best you. I think most of us reading your thread understand what this feels like. It's hell but it will hurt less eventually.

SailorSam

I suppose all you can say is it gets better with time. But console yourself with the thought that you're not on your own, many of us go home toan empty house and don't see a soul to speak to.
There's a long thread that's running on here at the moment about the ups and dowms of being single. Many of the posts will give you a laugh to read, or at the least see how others cope.

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susieq87

SailorSam wrote: »

I suppose all you can say is it gets better with time. But console yourself with the thought that you're not on your own, many of us go home toan empty house and don't see a soul to speak to.
There's a long thread that's running on here at the moment about the ups and dowms of being single. Many of the posts will give you a laugh to read, or at the least see how others cope.

i have been an MSE lurker for a while and i know that im not the first one to go through it. there have been times when ive read other people's posts and i just want to cry for them but they come out stronger and happier. unfortunately i do not feel strong, i feel so weak because i still want him. i still love him and the reason why i dont want to disuss it with my mum or friends is because they will think im stupid or weak for wanting a man who keeps hurting me. I'm sure a few people here will think the same.

a few weeks ago there was a thread about a woman who was in an abusive relationship and when she left she posted an update saying she missed her SO, i can really relate to that now. i know there is light at the end of the tunnel, its just so dark right now.

BitterAndTwisted i was thinking of going away tomorrow until wednesday because i only work thursday and friday but even if i do go away, the feeling is going to be there wherever i go.

heartbreak_star I am one of those people who lose their appetite and weight when they are stressed so all ive had the past few days has been tea and salad. for lunch today i tried to have a whopper meal so that i could "eat my emotions" but i could only manage a few bites and had to chuck the rest away.

Thank you everyone for your replies.

egoode

You only found out the news 2 days ago and no one deals with devastating news that quickly. Unfortunately as humans we can't choose to turn our feelings on and off but we can develop strategies to try and move on.

Getting out and exercising and keeping busy by trying to organise nights out with friends etc will help however longer term maybe you should be looking at counselling. I know several people who have seen counselors after relationship breakups and have found it very beneficial.