What can you get from hubby if splitting up

HappyG1rl

My friends husband has left her. He was paying her £500 a month but this month he told her he can't afford the usual amount so gave her £50 less. Would it b better to go through the CSA instead of having a private arrangement?

TheWaltons_3

What is his weekly income? Is he paying CSA for his other child?

Have you checked out the CSA calculator? Is he living with the other child?

How could a man do this to his wife and kids? Having another baby to someone whilst your've got a baby already is just sick. In fact, sleeping with someone whilst you've got a babe at home is wrong.

I reckon a Court would rule in her favour -they can make the bloke pay the mortgage still on the property and all sorts!

Gaz83

I think it would be worth reminding people now that this has the possibility to be a very emotive thread, and it is important to stick solely to the facts and not let opinions get in the way.

Remember, no-one knows exactly what happened between these people other than them.

dmg24

Gaz83 wrote: »

I think it would be worth reminding people now that this has the possibility to be a very emotive thread, and it is important to stick solely to the facts and not let opinions get in the way.

Remember, no-one knows exactly what happened between these people other than them.

Excellent point Gaz.

Always two sides to a story.

bobblebot

If she isn't working tell her straight away to go to the job centre and sign on for lone parent income support and put benefits solely in her name. Let jobcentre claim maintenance via CSA and she will get tax credits for her children, income suport 59.15 and child benefit. If her husband left her then she has been adandoned-she must tell them this and she will get income suport to pay her mortgage for her so she will not be made to sell the house. Let her husband put in for divorce and it will have to go to court for custody and house. the court will rule that she and her children have to stay in house until they leave school and the mortgage will be paid via IS and husband will be made to pay via CSA.
Your friend does not have to sell, does not have to deal with maintenance herself. Tell her to let her husband deal with proceedings if that is what he wants and just get herself to the jobcebtre to claim the benefits she is entitled to. Her mortgage and council tax will be paid for her and the tax credits, IS and child benefit will pay for any bills and food. Let the solicitors and courts deal with the rest who will always protect the best interests of the children.
Good luck to her. Tell her not to worry.

ukdickie31

What can you get from hubby if splitting up ?

A good night's sleep !

Gaz83

Toots wrote: »

??

I've asked three straightforward questions - if people are going to be warned about how to answer then I can't see what the point is in me bothering to ask questions.

Perhaps you could save your warnings for if people actually respond inappropriately?

It wasn't a warning, more just a reminder. We've all seen threads like this that turn into a bit of man or woman bashing rather than actual advice - and you've even kind of done a bit of it yourself, by saying that you wish the courts would allocate blame and calling him a slimeball.

I'm not saying he's not - if what you're saying is 100% true and his wife is 100% innocent then I would tend to agree with you - simply posting a reminder that threads like this can turn emotive and very little advice or information gets posted other than mud-throwing.

Morglin

No one, other than the two involved, know what goes on in a marriage, and the morals of one or the other do not affect the practicalities or financial arrangements.

I would advise that the wife goes to see a solicitor who will advise and help her to get what she is entitled to.

The solicitor will also be able to advise about the best way to proceed with the CSA - as the wife is working, they probably won't over exert themselves on her behalf - they are only interested in saving benefits if they are paid to the abandoned partner.

This site may help her to assess any other benefits she may be entitled to:

http://www.entitledto.co.uk/

Lin