Ex can't be bothered to divorce me

Kavanne

My husband left me suddenly in July last year. I still have yet to get any paperwork from him about the divorce, even though he has said he has hired a solicitor and signed documents on his end. Everytime I chase him about it (To be fair only a couple of times) he says 'it's with the solicitor, it's out of my hands'. I've asked him to chase his solicitor last week but I never heard anything back.

It's so frustrating as I am now in a new relationship and I just don't want to be connected to him anymore.

Divorcing me isn't a priority to him as being married to me has no effect on him. I don't want to come across as the !!!!!y ex-wife but at the same time I am unhappy just sitting here waiting. I don't want to spend any more money on a solicitor as he says he's already paid his over £200.

He's not claiming any money off me, I'm not claiming anything off him. We don't have kids and I kept the pets. We do own a property together that's rented out and pays for itself, but I've agreed with him that once we're divorced I will remortgage in my own name only and give him back the money his parents gave us for part of the deposit.

Thanks for listening to my little vent

Tigsteroonie

If the papers had been submitted to the Court, you'd have heard by now - so they haven't.

So why don't you divorce him instead? He left you, after all I'm sure you could dream up enough reasons under the Unreasonable Behaviour description.

Take yourself over to the Wikivorce site and find out how to do this - you don't have to use a solicitor, I didn't

monty-doggy

I agree. You don't need a solicitor, it costs £430 or £435 and about six months.

Easy!

Seanymph

Divorce him - or get the name of his solicitor (say yours needs to write to them) and phone then yourself and ask what is going on.

Do not sit there passively and let him control this.

Once you have talked to his solicitor you'll know whether or not he intends to do anything, and can make your decision.

troubleinparadise

Even if he doesn't seem that worried about getting on with the legalities of the divorce, I'd certainly advise making your own moves towards sorting out the jointly mortgaged property matter.

Whilst the two of you are connected with that, you are vulnerable should he be making financial decisions that might affect your credit rating or other areas financially.

marisco_2

Divorce can be expensive, time consuming, and emotionally difficult. Maybe your ex is putting it off as he wishes to carefully consider the terms of the financial aspect of your parting. Dealing with the day to day of the breakup and finances post-separation is hard enough, and people like to get their heads above water on their new lives, before plunging back into what can be an adversarial situation. If he continues to drag his feet over this there is nothing to stop you from getting the ball rolling and divorcing him.

Mojisola

Kavanne wrote: »

It's so frustrating as I am now in a new relationship and I just don't want to be connected to him anymore.

He's not claiming any money off me, I'm not claiming anything off him.

Have you written a new will? Without one, if you were to die, he would inherit from you.