urgently need legal advice before they take my children

Torry_Quine

kaya wrote: »

I don't understand this, if i was your husband I would dump my job in a flash and be there to care for my loved ones 24/7 ,no arguements, no questions, but you recon he would rather see social services take his children away and leave his wife sitting in her own urine all day long than jack in his his job? I can smell bovine fecal matter.........

I have to agree here. It makes no sense at all that anyone would risk the wellbeing of their family by staying in work.

martid

It amazes me how many people don't understand disabled people can parent!! We actually have amazing children who are well balanced, kind and understanding!! I was a normal mother that just needed a little support with transfers, lifting and accessing my children upstairs before the social caused me so much stress they relapsed my condition. I suppose a blind person would have their children taken because they cannot see them or a deaf person because they cannot hear their cry's? ?? I thought more of the human race but sadly i'm wrong. I asked for helpful advice but no, people would much rather be cruel than say nothing. God help you if one of you ever fractured your leg in 3 places or was struck down with multiple sclerosis! I suppose as we loose our active lives we should also be stripped of our families. Be careful those of you that feel the need to kick a person when they are down as you never know karma might bite back then you will feel the wrath of this cruel world!!!!

martid

Oh and it also surprises me in people's lack of ability to read. If you had put your glasses on you would of read that my husband is off working looking after us all but if he doesn't return in the next month (he has been off for 4) we will loose everything. He is an amazing man and twice the person of most of you!!!

mummyroysof3

I didn't judge and suggested looking at benefits and that your husband shouldn't return to work.

cattermole

martid wrote: »

Oh and it also surprises me in people's lack of ability to read. If you had put your glasses on you would of read that my husband is off working looking after us all but if he doesn't return in the next month (he has been off for 4) we will loose everything. He is an amazing man and twice the person of most of you!!!

If you have a mortgage then I can see benefits would not really help the situation if he gave up work it would mean you could possibly face loosing your home.

Hope you find the advice you are looking for, take care.

cattermole

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

Ok so your husband needs to give up his job and become your carer and look after the children ASAP. Do you own or rent? What benefits do you claim? I am failing to see why if you have a husband that social services are even involved win your children tbh

I've known plenty of families where disabled parent's with or without partners received Social Services help in their parenting role.

Torry_Quine

martid wrote: »

It amazes me how many people don't understand disabled people can parent!! We actually have amazing children who are well balanced, kind and understanding!! I was a normal mother that just needed a little support with transfers, lifting and accessing my children upstairs before the social caused me so much stress they relapsed my condition. I suppose a blind person would have their children taken because they cannot see them or a deaf person because they cannot hear their cry's? ?? I thought more of the human race but sadly i'm wrong. I asked for helpful advice but no, people would much rather be cruel than say nothing. God help you if one of you ever fractured your leg in 3 places or was struck down with multiple sclerosis! I suppose as we loose our active lives we should also be stripped of our families. Be careful those of you that feel the need to kick a person when they are down as you never know karma might bite back then you will feel the wrath of this cruel world!!!!

martid wrote: »

Oh and it also surprises me in people's lack of ability to read. If you had put your glasses on you would of read that my husband is off working looking after us all but if he doesn't return in the next month (he has been off for 4) we will loose everything. He is an amazing man and twice the person of most of you!!!

Sorry but I do know the type of situation you talk of and in that case the father had no hesitation of stopping work and if he were such an amazing person that's what your husband would do in my opinion.

You wouldn't loose everything but gain the peace of mind that having your family cared for would bring which is the most important thing. Yes you wouldn't have the money you have know but I know what I think is most important.

FBaby

The problem is that it is very difficult to get a grasp of your situation. On one hand there is this accusation of fraud that doesn't make much sense as you described it. Then you seem to say that your needs are such that you need care all day long and three times a day is not enough, but then get angry that posters implies you might struggle to look after two toddlers. The two don't go together. Either you need round the clock help for yourself and on that basis couldn't possibly be well enough to look after two toddlers, or you can look after them with some help and therefore they were right to stop the level you were receiving before.

Is the issue that you have relapsing remiting MS and currently in a relapse, so really struggling to look after yourself and your children, but hoping that you will be in remission shortly and therefore able to resume a more normal life, including looking after your kids with more limited help?

Indie_Kid

cattermole wrote: »

If you have a mortgage then I can see benefits would not really help the situation if he gave up work it would mean you could possibly face loosing your home.

Hope you find the advice you are looking for, take care.

Income based benefits would help pay the interest on a mortgage. The OP should also talk to their mortgage lender too.

pmlindyloo

You need some support with this. Cattermole has already given you some useful information.

here is another link that may help:

http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/england/healthcare_e/healthcare_nhs_healthcare_e/nhs_and_local_authority_social_services_complaints.htm

There is a relatively new service called Healthwatch who will certainly give you advice and may also act as your advocate. Not many people know about them and it appears to be a very under used service so there may be a good chance for a good response. (see link for contact details)

However, with all these things everything is likely to take time so it may be that your OH needs to speak to his employer and discuss his options as regards being off work and how they can help.

No one appears to have mentioned your doctor. Have you spoken to him about your problems?

Wishing you well.