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I`m 29 and married ro aimee whos 37 she has a son (Alex) from a previous marriage who's 12 nearly 13. Over the past year or so Aimee has lost 2 full-time jobs through no fault of her own and cant seem to get anything else, she temps here and there but nothing of any significant length of time. Over the last week. This last week or so has been VERY hard both money and family wise, we dont have any money at all (and iv done a SOA and cut back a much as possible but my wages still dont even come close to my out-goings.
Alex hasnt helped I think he's hit his moody teenager stage but, for quite a few years now he hasn't been very helpfull, he refuses to do anything round the house, apart from make a mess, we constantly get sworn at, and the usual "I hate you", "wish you were not here" blah, blah slamming doors, chucking stuff down stairs. he's generally OK with me apart from the odd out-burst but he's really nasty to aimee and it makes me cringe the way he speaks to her, she constantly tells him she loves him but, he never tells her. It seems he constantly has to answer back, and he does untill aimee flips and they end up having a huge row, half the time I just dont know what I should do, aimee is then really off with me so, it feels like im stuck in the middle iv got alex in one ear saying how much he hates me, aimee in the other giving me the silent treatment and jumping on me over the sillyest things. We've tried punishment for alex about his behavious but it has little effect other than we ran out of things to ban him from, making him do chores also doesn't work because he just refuses, tried physically forcing him but, it just ends up in someone getting hurt. we have been to counselling Alex made all the right noises in the sessions but it was all forgotten as soon as we entered the house.
aimees not happy with her girl friends either who, seem to be more wrapped up in themselves to notice shes not very happy. Aimee seems to be going through a serious bout of depression sick of being poor, and not being able to buy a bottle of wine once a week, constantly having to ring debters and beg for more time till I get paid.
Life is extremly hard and im afraid that cracks are starting to appear. I just dont know what I can do if anything Iv tried talking to aimee having it written down, and she doesn't think it warents us asking for help. feel like im up against a wall, and just dont know where to turn next.
Sorry had to have a rant somewhere and you guys got it i`m afraid
I`m 29 and married ro aimee whos 37 she has a son (Alex) from a previous marriage who's 12 nearly 13. Over the past year or so Aimee has lost 2 full-time jobs through no fault of her own and cant seem to get anything else, she temps here and there but nothing of any significant length of time. Over the last week. This last week or so has been VERY hard both money and family wise, we dont have any money at all (and iv done a SOA and cut back a much as possible but my wages still dont even come close to my out-goings.
Alex hasnt helped I think he's hit his moody teenager stage but, for quite a few years now he hasn't been very helpfull, he refuses to do anything round the house, apart from make a mess, we constantly get sworn at, and the usual "I hate you", "wish you were not here" blah, blah slamming doors, chucking stuff down stairs. he's generally OK with me apart from the odd out-burst but he's really nasty to aimee and it makes me cringe the way he speaks to her, she constantly tells him she loves him but, he never tells her. It seems he constantly has to answer back, and he does untill aimee flips and they end up having a huge row, half the time I just dont know what I should do, aimee is then really off with me so, it feels like im stuck in the middle iv got alex in one ear saying how much he hates me, aimee in the other giving me the silent treatment and jumping on me over the sillyest things. We've tried punishment for alex about his behavious but it has little effect other than we ran out of things to ban him from, making him do chores also doesn't work because he just refuses, tried physically forcing him but, it just ends up in someone getting hurt. we have been to counselling Alex made all the right noises in the sessions but it was all forgotten as soon as we entered the house.
aimees not happy with her girl friends either who, seem to be more wrapped up in themselves to notice shes not very happy. Aimee seems to be going through a serious bout of depression sick of being poor, and not being able to buy a bottle of wine once a week, constantly having to ring debters and beg for more time till I get paid.
Life is extremly hard and im afraid that cracks are starting to appear. I just dont know what I can do if anything Iv tried talking to aimee having it written down, and she doesn't think it warents us asking for help. feel like im up against a wall, and just dont know where to turn next.
Sorry had to have a rant somewhere and you guys got it i`m afraid
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