Would like to meet

mumofronnienreggie

Everyone has got some sort of skeleton hidden away somewhere. I think just go with how it feels at time. Im a singleton too and certainly for the early part of my 12 month period, I was so ashamed even though my situation was due to having to run away from a nasty s##t that stole/destroyed everything. However, I'm now 74 days away from discharge ( and counting down), and i really don't give a damn any more. It wasn't my fault, it was just life. S##t happens. I would tell them when I felt ready and if they had a problem with it then I would HAND them their coat and wave them on their merry way. But I do think it needs to be shared.
I personally wouldn't entertain a relationship with someone who wasn't financially stable ( by that I mean as in falling into the big black hole of debt, not as in rolling in cash). and didnt know how to manage their money. And I certainly wouldnt stay in a r'ship with anyone I found had kept things like that from me.
(yes I realise this is prob why i am still single and will prob remain single lol )
Just go with what your gut says.

Good idea for a post and I am sure something that many on here have pondered.

thelionel2000

Thanks for thT was beginning to think match.com was dud.

macbabypam wrote: »

I think it makes you look like someone who is not afraid to tackle problems head on. That is a good thing and makes you look reliable and mature.

BR is nothing to be ashamed of but it's not really ' getting to know you' material either. If you feel the relationship may get more serious after a while then that's when you start to reveal a few of the skeletons in your cupboard , which let's face it we all have. I'm sure your lady will have some things that will make you raise you eyebrows too!

Put it to the back of your mind for now and start looking for someone to start a friendship/relationship with. My friend has just got married to someone she met on match.com and could'nt be happier.

Give it a go and don't worry about detail. Good Luck with searching for love.

thelionel2000

Thank you all for your comments and advice. Did have a cbuckle at some as well.

SomebodyToldMe

Why not be honest?
You will soon find out whether she values good conversation, GSOH etc etc- or if she is a gold digger...
Some people really do value honesty

FocusQueen12

I was honest with a new partner and explained I was in an Iva. It actually turned out my partner had been bankrupt some years earlier and could not have been more understanding. It will depend on who you meet and if you think the relationship could be long term. If they run then they weren't for you anyway......have fun finding your significant other.

AP73

and there was me thinking love was blind??????

National_Debtline

Hi all

This is an interesting thread - not that I have any useful suggestions to make on the dating side of things... my interest has more to do with the concerns people often express about entering a relationship if one of them has outstanding debt problems.

We get a fair few calls each week along these lines - whether it's the debtor or their partner. The "debt-free" person is worried that they will somehow "inherit" liability for their partner's existing debts. Meanwhile, the debtor is worried that their liabilities will "infect" their other half!

Anyway, good luck OP in life and love :-)

Dennis @NDL