In despair

Yummymummytoone

Hi all long term lurker here.

I feel I'm losing my mind and I'm worried about my mental state. I'm consumed with bitterness and anger towards my family and I just can't find a way to let go this combined with a serious Pms disorder is making me lose the will to live. Once again I've upset my family and now sitting here, in tears, again through my own fault.

How does a person 'et go of anger and bitterness??

Sorry but better out than in x

purple45

Hi Yummymummytoone, sorry you're feeling so bad today. Hugs xx

It will pass and it won't always feel this bad. I think letting go might be accepting that the anger and bitterness is only hurting you and not resolving anything. You need to find ways of coping with your feelings and sometimes that is accepting that people can't be the way we want them to be and sometimes its better to distance yourself. Reach out to friends if you can and find someone to talk to. Maybe getting councelling to help you see a way forward.

I'm sure other people will find much better things to say, but I just wanted to send that hug. x

Floss

Write down your feelings and then burn the paper so it has gone and cannot be read. Then make an appointment with your GP and ask for counselling.

Toto

I think it depends on why you are bitter and angry. Do you have unresolved issues with them? If so are they big issues or little niggles? And, who do you mean by family? That is quite a broad spectrum of people, is this close family? Children? distant cousin?


I think by exploring the feelings a bit deeper you might come to some answers. If the root of the problem is with you, then you may need to get some treatment for your PMS symptoms. But, if the hormones just bring to the surface deep unresolved problems then those need to be dealt with one way or another before things will improve.

marisco_2

The more you are focused on solutions to this ill feeling between yourself and your family members, the less you will experience the sense of powerlessness that comes from ruminating on the hurt. Do you have a friend or neutral relative, that may be willing to helping mediate so as issues can be addressed and a resolution found over time? Or have things gone beyond this stage? If the latter applies then I would suggest speaking with your gp, telling him/her exactly how you feel, and seeking some professional guidance on how to move forward positively.

You sound extremely distressed and aspects of your post worried me. It may be a good idea to contact the Samaritans and to chat to one of their skilled advisors. They operate a 24 hour service and you can reach them on 08457 909090. You are in my thoughts, take care.

koan_2

I would try getting the PMS treated first. Hormones can have an effect on your behaviour, mood and wellbeing (as you know!) Try and treat the cause of the problem.

Yummymummytoone

Thanks all. I've called down slightly but very teary. I'm going to call the docs tomorrow and take it from there. I'm ask going to distance myself from my family. ( although when I have done that in the past they gave called me ignorant etc) I can't win. :-( thankyou all though xx

Tygermoth

So? they can call you any name they want.

All you have to remember is how you fell now, how they made you feel like this and what you need not to be put in this situation again.

So next time if they start throwing insults about just reply. Its comments like that that made me go!.

Yummymummytoone

Hi again. Went to the doc and have been given anti depressants. Not ideal but very much needed. I want to thank you sell god taking the time to give me advice xxx