Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

SingleSue

Doozergirl wrote: »

Wow. Hello blin

I didn't consider the possibility of long term lurkers, didn't think we were interesting enough, but there you go! I lurked on a thread on another forum, years ago without feeling that I had anything much to add.

Feel free to carry on lurking, but being a nice person is not exclusive, and nice people are always welcome, you know that.

I tend to lurk on the mortgage free threads, no idea why, just find it interesting :rotfl:

silvercar

LydiaJ wrote: »

Talking of how people refer to their partners... if you google "late-nearly-ex" (with the quote marks), it comes up with 8 results, all of which are me posting either here or "elsewhere". Hasn't anybody else found it necessary to invent a phrase for this particular kind of relationship?

Which is also interesting as this board is meant to be behind a login wall and not visible on google or other search engines.

Generali wrote: »

Thanks Blin.

I thought it would be just too weird to have a heterosexual only group this large once you include lurkers.

I bet there are a lot of lurkers on this thread. Hello lurkers

All the lurkers should be logged in to see this board, so they have the ability to post. No excuses out there, say hello!

SingleSue

lostinrates wrote: »

But that's their ignorance.

And rather outdated.

Different people have thought all sorts about me/sexual practise. Its quite lovely really parents were cool about gay issues , the sadness to me is that they just didn't know you well enough.

Fwiw, I have a coupe of people I know who are asexual. ( I.e. They have a gender but do not feel desire for sexual contact) It would be as logical a wrong conclusion to arrive at for a single person, but some asexual people are in relationships. Its something i am really interested in as its something I find hard to empathise with even remotely when I unless I feel nearly dead or was on the pill. . I still think that hetero but single is most statistically likely?:)

As a person of fluidity in more than one way I am also really intrigued by how hard it is when people i know who have been as strongly homosexual as some here have described feeling, transition to feeling other. This has happened a surprising number of times in our circle really (in sort of waves).

Youngest is asexual and a good friend of ours is too...though it is more to do with their ASD. Whether youngest will change as he matures, I don't know but it seems unlikely and as long as he is happy, then that is fine by me.

LydiaJ

Spirit wrote: »

The LNE status is going to be rare as it is dependent on a death in a short window of time so I am not surprised that few are found.

Well, my particular circumstance of having a decree nisi but not a decree absolute must be very rare, but actually lots of people are separated for quite a while before getting divorced. A no fault divorce requires 2 years of separation, and quite a lot of people do that. In fact, I know of another traffic fatality of somebody who was separated, but I don't know anything about his widow or her circumstances, and I've never met her.

Anyway, it turns out PN hasn't found somebody else just like me. She sent me the link in a PM, and it turned out to be me on another site where I'm not called Lydia.

Spirit wrote: »

I dealt with a case at work where a widow was set up to receive benefits whilst a long standing partner was not to receive benefits. This was legally sound but morally wrong and uncomfortable as the partner was known to colleagues and would be in hardship whilst they went through the worst of the grief. When he got his diagnosis the staff member he had told colleagues he intended to make a change to his pension nominee but time ran out in days.

That's pants. Silly man should have changed his arrangements long before he got ill - as soon as he arrived at a situation where the new partner was financially dependent on him but the wife wasn't, in fact. I'd already changed my will before LNE died - although not actually my pension arrangements because they were part of the divorce settlement negotiation.

LNE's death was nothing like that. His other woman was never financially dependent on him - they never lived together - and she had finished with him before he died, so he was unattached.

Death can come suddenly and with no warning at all, at any age, as it did for LNE with his road accident at the age of 39. If your arrangements aren't already how you would want them to be, then sort it without further delay.

zagubov

LydiaJ wrote: »

Well, my particular circumstance of having a decree nisi but not a decree absolute must be very rare, but actually lots of people are separated for quite a while before getting divorced. A no fault divorce requires 2 years of separation, and quite a lot of people do that. In fact, I know of another traffic fatality of somebody who was separated, but I don't know anything about his widow or her circumstances, and I've never met her.

Anyway, it turns out PN hasn't found somebody else just like me. She sent me the link in a PM, and it turned out to be me on another site where I'm not called Lydia.



That's pants. Silly man should have changed his arrangements long before he got ill - as soon as he arrived at a situation where the new partner was financially dependent on him but the wife wasn't, in fact. I'd already changed my will before LNE died - although not actually my pension arrangements because they were part of the divorce settlement negotiation.

LNE's death was nothing like that. His other woman was never financially dependent on him - they never lived together - and she had finished with him before he died, so he was unattached.

Death can come suddenly and with no warning at all, at any age, as it did for LNE with his road accident at the age of 39. If your arrangements aren't already how you would want them to be, then sort it without further delay.

I try to plan ahead when circumstances permit. I've enhanced my pension ( and from interacting with other threads with me you know how troublesome that was to get right!). Also made a will.

Sometimes wonder if we need to teach people how to live their lives in terms of the finances and legalities- like e.g maybe nudging pregnant women and their partners to sort out wills etc. Advising workers how to prepare financially for retiremrnt.

LydiaJ

SingleSue wrote: »

I tend to lurk on the mortgage free threads, no idea why, just find it interesting :rotfl:

I've started going over there recently too. They're such a friendly and encouraging bunch - a bit like the NP.

SingleSue wrote: »

Youngest is asexual and a good friend of ours is too...though it is more to do with their ASD. Whether youngest will change as he matures, I don't know but it seems unlikely and as long as he is happy, then that is fine by me.

Not that I think your youngest would be likely to want it, but there's a website with a forum etc for asexual people who are fed up of being misunderstood about it.

http://www.asexuality.org/home/

Generali

PasturesNew wrote: »

I've always had an eye on waste and don't oven bake spuds for the reason that it's a waste of electricity to have a whole oven on for so long for one potato. It's no longer a cheap meal!

My mum grew up in a house with no oven. If they wanted to bake something her granny (who brought her up) would make up the pie/whatever, then mum had to take it across the road to the bakehouse to be cooked.

I was thinking of you as I posted.

My plums went mouldy so I had to use frozen raspberries. Will try to post pictures later.

PasturesNew

Generali wrote: »

My plums went mouldy.

Ah well, at least you've already made the Generalissimos

lostinrates

Yorkie1 wrote: »

I've a great crabble jelly recipe which came out brilliantly. If you'd like me to post it, do say.



I too am rather scared of the idea of pressure cookers. Mum used to have one when I was growing up but I don't understand the principles of cooking in them so will keep away (nor do I have the space for one).



So had everyone else on the MSE thread referred to ... except two posters who insisted it was atom in N Ireland.

Yes please ( to recipe)


I gogogled 'from atom' and it seems not unused. I got 54 returns anyway.

Don't waste time on thread its banal trash, I really did pick out the highlight and interesting google find.

lostinrates

Generali wrote: »

Pommes boulangere is a good dish.

Sliced spuds (the ones sold as baking potatoes work especially well) interspersed with sliced onion. A cup or so of chicken stock poured over and a few blobs of butter on top.

It gets its name from the fact that people used to take it to the baker to cook it in the cooling oven.

It's amazing what we waste these days. I'd think nothing of turning on the oven to make a jacket spud or something. People used to have to use the cooling oven to keep body and soul together.

We have this far more often that dauphinoise.

Both are things that look like a lot more effort has been put in that has which please people:D