can my ex take me to court to pay for his bond after year half living apart?

lostsole

hi am hoping someone will no the answer to this here goes,
am a council tenant the tenancy is just in my name in July 2012 I told my ex husband that I wanted to end things between us, and could he find somewhere else to live he moved out early hours of the morning taking all his things without saying a word in September 2012. he found somewhere to live.

he's now told one my children that he's going to take me to court unless I give him money for a bond as he has to find a new place to live.
he's been to the council and he's saying the woman told him he has a right to the house and I never had the right to kick him out under being married ( he left early hours of morning ) and we should sort it out between us civilised and either I give him the money to find new place or he has the right to the house which would be to big for him as its a 3 bed and if he takes me to court then I'd would incur the court cost? not him and am on benefits and he works.

I think he's just trying it on and he's luck but I wondered if anyone has any advice surely after being apart for over a year and half he can't take me to court for money for a place.
it would be funny the give him money if it wasn't for the fact he took the car we both paid towards sold it and kept all the money as it was in his name i got left with credit card debt as that was in mine.

as for be civilised part if I haven't already reported him twice to the police for doing damage to my car and treats being made if I took him court for child support and him harassing me while I was out, put in divorce papers back in June 2013 and he's not signed them still.

sorry if I blabbed on a bit thanks in advance

BitterAndTwisted

He's trying it on. The tenancy is in your sole name. You can exclude this chancer from your home if that is your choice. You have absoluely no obligation to provide him with sums of money for anything whatsoever. Give him a fiver today and he'll be back for a tenner tomorrow. Tell him to naff off and stop trying to blackmail you though your children. He's low-life scum

Kayalana99

lostsole wrote: »

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he's been to the council and he's saying the woman told him he has a right to the house and I never had the right to kick him out under being married ( he left early hours of morning ) and we should sort it out between us civilised and either I give him the money to find new place or he has the right to the house which would be to big for him as its a 3 bed and if he takes me to court then I'd would incur the court cost? not him and am on benefits and he works.

I think he's just trying it on and he's luck but I wondered if anyone has any advice surely after being apart for over a year and half he can't take me to court for money for a place.
it would be funny the give him money if it wasn't for the fact he took the car we both paid towards sold it and kept all the money as it was in his name i got left with credit card debt as that was in mine.

as for be civilised part if I haven't already reported him twice to the police for doing damage to my car and treats being made if I took him court for child support and him harassing me while I was out, put in divorce papers back in June 2013 and he's not signed them still.

sorry if I blabbed on a bit thanks in advance

Make a list of everything that was 50/50 in the marriage, it looks like he has taken more money out of this, send him a recorded letter saying that if he takes you to court for £xxx you will be counter sueing him for £xxx INCLUDING his half of your credit card as you were married, HALF of the amount of the car.

The advice given to your husband does seem based on the fact the house was in joint names - I have never heard of anyone giving money to the ex husband / wife as payment to move...I don't think he has a case their but I am not a laywer...I do no as you were married (if it was a short marriage 2-3 years and the debt was before you were married it is fightable that he doesn't have to pay half but feel free to expand on things) that all debts should be spilt within reason and if he did take you to court you should make sure you have a list off all the money he owes you as well... :T

BitterAndTwisted

I wouldn't be engaging with him for any reason at all. That just opens up and opportunity for more poison to be dripped to the children. I'd keep my counsel and not rise to the bait.

Lostsole: if the tenancy is in your sole name he's not entitled to a single penny from you for anything. He doesn't even have any right to live in your home without your consent, never mind demand sums of money from you.

He's a blackmailing weasel. Tell him to eff off!

thorsoak

Apologies if you've already told us, and I have missed it - but does he pay maintenance for the children (if they are his)?

lostsole

thanks to everyone that has replyed to my post, your comments are putting my mind at rest thanks

lostsole

thorsoak wrote: »

Apologies if you've already told us, and I have missed it - but does he pay maintenance for the children (if they are his)?

The two youngest are his and no he don't and hasn't payed a penny from the day he left, and as he told my oldest two children to tell me if I put in for child maintenance he will take the cost out on my car which he has already damaged, it's only a little run around but I had to get a loan to buy it as I need a car as my youngest is on the autistic spectrum as wont take a bus with loads people on there.

duchy

A comment like that-especially to my children would have me on the phone to CSA the same day putting in a claim. For goodness sake stand up to this awful man ...and show to your children by your actions that no-one has to put up with bullying.

As they aren't his -why are the two oldest children seeing him anyway ? Do they actually want to ? Unless they really wanted to I'd keep them well away from a man who is using them to pass threats on to you.........and I'd also be reporting those threats to the police-so there is a paper trail of his behaviour ..... both the threats and the harassment of your older children.

BitterAndTwisted

He's not weasel. I take it back. He's a filthy, lying, manipulative, blackmailing scum-bag.

Go the the police about the threats and then get onto the CSA. Paying you 20% of his wages will wipe the smile off his face.

McKneff

And if he is saying those sort of things to his children, all he is doing is showing them what a nasty character he is.


He has no claim on the house if you are the only one named, tell him to take a long walk off a short pier.


If you can afford a cheap CCtv, train it on your car, and let him know it is there,

rpc

Are you still married?

I think his claim is rather spurious (if not vexatious) but a spouse does get home rights even if they are not named on the tenancy. That said, it sounds like he left of his own accord (you asked him, he left, no eviction or force) so he can only exercise these rights with a court order.

The above only applies until divorce, unless a court order to the contrary is obtained before that happens.

I don't see how paying his rent deposit comes into his home rights at all, so he has made up an argument and is being a twerp (other suitable terms being frowned upon by MSE).

Change the lock just in case, let him waste his money on a court fee. He is probably just trying to bully you. Report any and all damage/threats to the police.