Please help me get divorced.

wantsadivorce

Long time reader, never posted.

My wife & I married in 2006. We separated over a year ago because she said she didn't love me any more. Since August she has lived with another man.

We both want a divorce, and she 'says' she's got all she wants out of me financially. We have two young children (I pay CSA, and see my children most weekends). I have been working towards a decent pension in my career.

I want to get out as cheaply as possible, with 100% of my pension in tact. Please help me because I feel like a simpleton.

I_try

Have a look at wikivorce. It should give you all the information and guidance that you are after.

wantsadivorce

Thank you.

I'm hoping it's possible to sort it all myself and just pay the court fees.

nearlyrich

Your pension is part of the financials considered in the split, to keep your pension intact I think the court would have to be assured that your soon to be ex is adequately provided for.

mgdavid

nearlyrich wrote: »

Your pension is part of the financials considered in the split, to keep your pension intact I think the court would have to be assured that your soon to be ex is adequately provided for.

No, the court need to be presented with a clear financial agreement which you and the ex both agree to. As long as there's no alleagations or signs of coercion then any agreement by both should be accepted (but judges are all individuals and some might query it where others won't).
If you want to keep all your pension you may need to offer an equivalent from elsewhere, be it cash or proportion of equity in the house or whatever. It sounds quite amicable so far, let's hope it stays that way.

ETA - the fact that she's already cohabiting elsewhere is hugely in your favour of course, I almost missed that.