csa nightmare help please urgently wanted

kellymac_3

I have just left British Army after 22 years service. I left at rank of Sgt lower band. I will receive my lump sum and my pension can the CSA touch my lump sum and pension as i am now not working, and due to the lump sum i cannot claim benefits.
I have a child with ex wife, and now remarried with a child.
Also can my ex wife go for any of my lump sum as i did not fulfill certain commitments set out in the divorce, she stated originally she would not go for any of it providing i paid maintenance arrears and also gave car, i did neither. Now i am worried she will claim from lump sum as i never stuck to divorce agreement.
CSA are now in touch and i would like to know where i stand.

bll78

What CSA plan are you on, i.e when did the CSA get involved?
Divorce wise was it a clean break, or is it open with spousa maintenance things still to be sorted etc?

kellymac_3

My ex wife went to CSA in 2009. In 2010 i was told i had to pay via deduction of earning. I have paid up until Feb this year. It has now stopped due to me leaving army. My ex wife has been in contact with them and told them about my lump sum and my pension.
Divorce wise i ignored everything and it was ruled against me, my fault i know. She stated that she wouldnt go for my lump sum if i gave car and also paid maintenance arrears. I called her lawyer and agreed, but i never gave anything, didnt start paying until csa caught up with me. So because i never kept to my end i assume she can apply. We dont have any contact at all, and i havent seen my child in 4 years as i opted not to.

kazwookie

How did she know about the lump sum?

kellymac_3

we were married during my time in army, thought was forever so she knew everything....all soldiers receive lump sum when they leave providing they done full 22 years, also she remarried to another soldier, so he knows ins and outs of army benefits

lindsaygalaxy

Is there a reason you have stopped seeing your child? The money isnt for your ex wife, it is for your child that you brought into the world and have a responsibilty for. You cannot just forget about your other child as you have a new life with a new wife and child.

kellymac_3

i made huge mistake of letting my child down. Whilst i was courting, i put my fiancee ( now wife) first. I missed many days what i promised to see my child, and my ex wife put a stop to it, as my child was getting distressed ( supposedly), she remarried and he is bringing my child up, so i have stayed away.

lindsaygalaxy

I understand that your wife and child were hurt by what you did but you have a chance to fix that, to pay for your child and try to build some bridges. The longer you leave it the harder it will be. Unless the child knows nothing about you or you are a danger to the child then do the right thing.

What does your current wife think? Would she support you in paying for both your children? You cannot wipe your past just because you found someone else. That child has a right to her father too.

kellymac_3

i intend to but wish to know about the money situation so i can plan ahead

DUTR

lindsaygalaxy wrote: »

Is there a reason you have stopped seeing your child? The money isnt for your ex wife, it is for your child that you brought into the world and have a responsibilty for. You cannot just forget about your other child as you have a new life with a new wife and child.

Sadly people can and do so without any regret, ex's and offspring have a responsibilty too, there is no point trying to maintain contact/relationship if it is met with constant rejection, just keep contributing, the time of financial responsibilty soon passes, it's not always the blokes fault when things go sour.

kellymac_3

thank you DUTR but i am at fault. I neglected my child i admit it, i then went for access at court, then my new wife gave birth to my 2nd child, i was bowled over, so cancelled my application. I do not wish to push for access, but now CSA payments have stopped due to me leaving the army, my ex wife has told them i am to receive my lump sum payment which is a substantial amount, and also receive monthly pension, i am worried she can claim against both. Can she do this?