Bad moment

kerryboo

i agree with that user55 i brought everything that all the lists tell you and half of it never got used

Posthinking

Just to put my two penneth in before my darling OH susses I'm having a nosey (on holiday and Wi Fi may go at any moment) I was widowed at the age of 33 with 2 kids aged 16 and 6. (yes we married young!) I managed somehow. Dunno how but I did. Had a well paid job but had to give it up to care for the kids. Do you know? I look at mine and compare them with the kids today who've had everything handed to them on a plate and I feel proud.

ClaireLR

Posthinking, so you should!

Pixie, I hope you're feeling better, not heard from you on here today??

missylou_2

Hi,

Firstly please don't attack me for saying this as at one point e were a single parent family struggling well below the breadline, (I went to uni based on pre-child savings, only I hadn't quite grasped at this point exactly how much children cost!) we survived without state help, and if anything the living hand to mouth/in poverty made our bond far stronger as at many times the only entertainment we had was each other!

Our lives have moved on somewhat since then and am now financially stable.

However our closest parent/child memories stem from the days that enforced our bond; the days when we had to walk five miles to nursery as we could not afford the bus fare!

Point to my story is you really do not need money to have/support/ form a bond with your children, what you really need is time, optimism, patience, and above all love, consider money an added extra, not 100% essential!

Conor_3

Exactly missylou. We have two kids and are fortunate enough to live in a rural area. There's two good parks a minutes walk from the house, a nature reserve at the other end of town and miles of quiet country lanes to bike down so there's more than enough we can do for free with the kids.

As to being poorer, we're not. The problem society has created for itself is that many people have no patience and must have everything now and worry about paying for it later so they end up skint because they buy things they can't afford then end up paying for them twice with the interest. Impatience is an expensive mistress.

Not to mention the national obsession with owning your own house to the point many people will quite happily work two jobs to do. 30 years ago, the situation was completely different with the majority renting.

tight_jock

Conor wrote: »

Exactly missylou. We have two kids and are fortunate enough to live in a rural area. There's two good parks a minutes walk from the house, a nature reserve at the other end of town and miles of quiet country lanes to bike down so there's more than enough we can do for free with the kids.

As to being poorer, we're not. The problem society has created for itself is that many people have no patience and must have everything now and worry about paying for it later so they end up skint because they buy things they can't afford then end up paying for them twice with the interest. Impatience is an expensive mistress.

Not to mention the national obsession with owning your own house to the point many people will quite happily work two jobs to do. 30 years ago, the situation was completely different with the majority renting.

Some excellent points well made conor.

I`ve never worked out the obsession with owning your own home, although I have in the past and sold on at a profit. ...maybe I answered my own point there:rotfl:

.........anyway, as you point out, we only NEED enough money for food, warmth and shelter. Anything on top of that is not ESSENTIAL and until society gets that into its collective head, nothing will change.

:beer:

PixiePie

Hi All,

Just wanted to say thank you very much for all the kind words - was having a bit of a bad day (I hate hormones, they really don't help at all!), but writing it down helped, and was v interesting the comments people made

I agree with the whole 'you don't have to buy all the expensive things' theme, I think the biggest thing is just the housing and food - it's just so expensive! And the problem with renting imho is that at any minute the landlord can go 'I want my house back' so you have to move, which is lots of money and hassle etc. It used to be afr cheaper to morgage than rent as well (When I was at uni my father brought a place for me to live in, I paid him rent that was about £50 over the monthly morgage, plus he got another £300 a month from the other tennant, and then when he sold it he got the rise in price. As a renter, I got a roof over my head for that time, and nothing at the end of it).

I think our situation with work makes me a bit out of touch with the real world as well - whilst I love the fact that we do what we love in work (or at least, he does, what with me going out to work again soon lol), it does seem more hassle than it's worth at the moment, but sure it will pick up again.We've just been offered some amazingly lovely offer for something to do with work,we just need to raise the cash to be able to take advantage of it now lol.

Thank you once again to all, sorry for being a wet blanket

ClaireLR

Hi Pixie,

Your sounding a lot better today! Not a wet blanket, just a bad day thats all!

I'm sure things will get better for you soon, you sound like your due some good luck!

Claire. X

PixiePie

LOL - we are the unluckiest people in the world - another week of the Nat Lottery without a single number coming up, and still not a sniff of a prize from the comps I enter (I do about 2-300 a week free entry type things). But hey, we'll just have to make our own luck I guess