Daughter's 1st birthday and separated from her dad

owsaboutthatthen

Does anybody have any ideas on how my daughter's 1st birthday should be spent in light of me no longer being with her dad - he and his family and all my family want to be involved and I feel like i'm stuck in the middle of trying to come to some sort of arrangement without hurting anybody!

Help !!!

skylight

How do you all get on? As thats really important.

Perhaps "tea" for everyone with cake etc at your place or your parents place, with perhaps Dad coming over an hour or two earlier so he can spend some time with her? (Which will work better at your place)

Of course, if everyone hates everyone else then this will be impossible!

What would you prefer to do?

owsaboutthatthen

charlotte664 wrote: »

How do you all get on? As thats really important.

Perhaps "tea" for everyone with cake etc at your place or your parents place, with perhaps Dad coming over an hour or two earlier so he can spend some time with her? (Which will work better at your place)

Of course, if everyone hates everyone else then this will be impossible!

What would you prefer to do?

Well I still speak to my ex as far as the kids are concerned and wouldn't deny him seeing our daughter on her 1st birthday - he sees the kids once a week anyway - however my family get on with his family but my family don't get on with my ex and furthermore I don't think his family are fully aware of how he treated me before he left us (i.e. they've only heard his version of things). Very complicated situation in my opinion and I can see friction no matter what I decide! Then it will be comparing between each other who spent what on her and how much and I just feel like telling everyone to you know what :mad: !

barbie_babe

what about ex and his family come around for a few hours time stated on invite. Then leave a few hours then have your family come around that could spend all late afternoon and evening with your daughter.

owsaboutthatthen

barbie_babe wrote: »

what about ex and his family come around for a few hours time stated on invite. Then leave a few hours then have your family come around that could spend all late afternoon and evening with your daughter.

Was thinking along those lines and would hope there'd be no overlapping or else it would hit the fan! I just hope the day will go as smoothly as it possibly can because at the end of the day there is a child involved and everybody should be civil because it is her day!

meluca

How about your family come round morning to mid afternoon then ex could pick daughter up and take to his family till early evening.You get to spend daughters b/day with her and your family and ex gets the same, plus you get some time to clean up after visitors gone or just chill for a bit.

barbie_babe

I would leave few hours to get rid of ex family. But i think if you tell ex what you are doing he may get his family away on time. you could just tell him you are doing the party in stages as she is young. We did this with ours and we are married and everyone got on. We did for the kids so they could spend a nice day with each family.

owsaboutthatthen

meluca wrote: »

How about your family come round morning to mid afternoon then ex could pick daughter up and take to his family till early evening.You get to spend daughters b/day with her and your family and ex gets the same, plus you get some time to clean up after visitors gone or just chill for a bit.

That's an idea thanks.

stressedaah30

hi ive got this dilemma coming up in august my daughters dads family live away and myfamily hate my ex so no chance of a party for everyone so think will have 2 partys

owsaboutthatthen

stressedaah30 wrote: »

hi ive got this dilemma coming up in august my daughters dads family live away and myfamily hate my ex so no chance of a party for everyone so think will have 2 partys

Hi the dilemma I have posted is in August too strangly enough! I will probably opt for the two party thing as I want the best for my daughter with no animosity.